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I am writing this column because the news reached me this morning.This happened and it was sudden.My little friend passed away today.He was 6.He was born with a rare seizure disorder and it was so rare that the doctors couldnt cure it.He was just a wonderful little boy who was always happy go lucky.He loved baseball and he loved The Mariners..He loved to collect baseball cards..and he believed in the healing power of God..So why isn t there a cure for this rare disorder? He died in the hospital and he just closed his eyes and he looked up and said "I love you mommy." Those were his last words.I am crying now because I know that he is in a much better place.And I am just in a state of shock.This wasnt suppose to happen.Why? Why did God take him at 6? The tears are streaming down my face and the pain is in my heart...now I understand what he meant...I did see him a few months ago.They were in seattle for the day.They dont live in seattle.They live up North.He was just so happy to see me that he ran up to me and he put his little hands around my waist.Then he kissed me on the cheek as if he knew.And he said to me this..."vader I dont feel so good..but will you sing for me?" And I sang for him.He was just so happy..and now I understand how a parent feels when they lose a child...I now understand this pain.It is an empty feeling.It is a feeling of 100%abandonment...You feel like you have failed.You feel that you were a bad parent.Now I understand to the tea and I am in such a state of shock.You see...THERE IS NOTHING THAT I CAN DO....WHAT CAN I DO? WHAT CAN I SAY? HOW IS THIS GRIEF DIFFERENT? I brought a white candle and i am going to light it and on sunday at 12 o clock..I am getting a balloon and release it to the wind..because this little boy was a little friend and he always smiled.He always found the good in people and he made me realize that some things happen and when they do..it is up to the people involved to make good out of it..And my tears are falling.Because of this death..I am not going to class.I am going to stay home for the next few days and see if she wants me to do anything for her.As for the memorial...it hasnt been discussed..but my little friend is in a place where is no more pain.And the rare seizure disorder is no more.And one again..If I have said anything to anyone out of the ordinary..I want to express my sincere apologies..I want to say and say I am sorry because my little friend one day told me..."Always say I am sorry." But why did he have to die? Why couldnt the doctors heal him? Is this fair? I dont think so..and I am going to write a few more columns as soon as I can because I have to do the food shopping.Today they are having 1.00 sales in all of the supermarkets and I told Brad that I would get the bread...someone told me to have Brad get it..but I cant do this.I want to be around people.I want to see certain ones and to be help and ask for help and ask for forgiveness as well.Vader.....4/24/20009....
so sorry for your loss and the pain you are going thru may the creator give you and his family strength to get thru this.
for the pain we feel is the pain of love. stay helpful and be part of it for your little friend ment alot to you.
for your friend lived and lived happy and now it is up to you and his family to carry on with what he had started he would want you to for he shared it with you.
hugs to you and his family a friend in grief.
love jan