Bereavement Support Group

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vader 01/11/2013

My name is vader and I am 65 years old.On May 22nd,2009 my boyfriend of 12 years committed suicide and it was quite a gruesome sight.Brad died in my arms and it has been been for me literally hell on earth buy now a miracle has happened and it is all because of the advice of PJs mom and she told me how I would benefit from therapy.I have learned so much.I have learned that so many people used me and this is why I was so bitter.Noone can forget the aftermath of a suicide..but we can forgive and I have forgiven Brad.Now it is time for me to move on.On the 8th of January 2013...I joined the Toastmasters International Club and I will
with the help of this wonderful group get a memtor and I will be giving speeches.Domestic Violence is on the increase.And it gets worse during the football season.Yet so many women like myself were in the process called denial and we refused to leave.I stayed because of the my cats and I feared that Brad would hurt them,Kramer is healthy now and she is my best friend.I intend to speak on the domestic abuse and the many signs that women can look for to protect themselves instead of getting hurt.The wonderful people in Daily Strength have helped me.And some of you have healed me and I am, finding out that no man is perfect but we must learn to accept ourselves and I have.Thanks to PJMOM.Thanks to all of you and that goes for Scott.His advice was wonderful and do remember ladies that people like Brad are poison and but do get out of the relationship if it isnt healthy.I stayed for 13 years and now I am sorry and I am starting over at 65 and i do feel wonderful and it is so great to be alive and well with no black eyes or bruises.ONce again thanks again and Praise the Lord for He has helped me and i am alive all because of him.Vader

deleted_user 01/11/2013

so sorry for your loss believe it or not in the nineties I went to a shelter and I was gay my gf was doing horrible things spitting on me throwing things leaving me in dangerous places driving fast with the kids in the car , nobody could believe me bcuz of being gay I am here to tell you dont forget to address this it is reall,, the sick part is she is a therapist now, OMG so anyway I went to a codependancy treatment center and there I learned about SLAA which I attended for many years and found out that relationship addiction kills as much as alchohol and you can be addicted to an abusive person especially if you were abused as a child which I was ,,, thank God I got out,,,, in time, but it was 4 years of hell I still have a scar where she dug her nail in me ,, OMG what a miracle I got out before something horrible happened But I will never forget the cold shoulder I got at the crisis center like I did not belong,, Domestic violence happens in all relationships even men are abused but dont report,, i was with an extremely abusive woman and just glad we are here and you can have your voice and transform your suffering, GOd Bless warrior

barbarame 01/12/2013

Goodbye. Glad you are moving on - there is a limit to how many times one can respond to the same old story.

deleted_user 01/12/2013

Hi Vader: I too was involved in abuse. I had to get out and get away from the bruises and all of it. Women become desenitized to it, and they lose their self esteem, their self worth and forget that they are truly wonderful and good and deserve so much more in life.

I'm glad you're starting a brand new life and it's never too late. Kiss the kitties for me.

deleted_user 01/12/2013

some names barb was on here unbelieveably rude people need to tell their story for as long and as many times as they need to

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