Bereavement Support Group

Are you grieving the loss of a loved one? Whether you lost someone recently or it's been years, grief and its accompanying emotions can be complicated to cope with. Join our online support group to connect with a supportive group of people who really know how you feel. Help is right here.

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vader 09/23/2014

To all i have had a very rough year so far and noone has helped me except
the wonderful people here.Why do people desert each other?Why do people turn their backs on you when you really need them? I am in a very bad depression and this is due to the fact that my cat of 16 years died on Saturday at 4.30 in the morning.She was in a lot of pain and it was her time to go...It seems odd without her now.All I been doing is crying and i havent been eating at all.I cannot sleep and the other night I was sweating.This year has been so horrible and I dont have anyone to talk to.All i have is the people here and if there is anybody who have lost an animal please let me know.I want to feel better..but i can t.All I do is cry.Cry because I c ouldnt do enough for her.And I cry because she died of cancer.I am crying now.This is all.Vader.

IsJusMe 09/23/2014

{{{{{{vader}}}}}}
people pull away from all forms of pain...
they avoid things they do not understand or fear...
everyone wants peace but few are willing
to step forward and put heart and feeling into
someone elses problems...

Here in this place we already have a common bond..
we are, for what ever reason, in pain and already willing to
reach out for help and to give help...

I am so sorry you lost your friend of 16 years...
those who have not been loved by a cat will not
understand this pain because "she was only a cat"
no she was not just a cat .. she was your comforting
never judging always there no matter your mood,
your clothing, your weight your any negative that
can come from humans.. that does not happen
with a pet... when the pain lets you and if you can
find another pet friend. she will never be the same but
she can create a new bond of love and comfort...

Vader keep holding on ..
it will get better...
~warm hugs~

goingthroughit 09/24/2014

So sorry for your loss. I've lost quite a few cat friends over the years and it seems to get harder each time. Very tough, but it does get better as time goes on. You are just at the beginning - the worst part. You did a great job of looking after your cat - 16 yrs is a long lifetime for a cat! Feel proud of that. You gave your cat a happy and long life - something so many other animals don't get. Keep your chin up.
hugs to you.

koolman 09/25/2014

I miss my family's dog, a big, black Chow/Lab/Shepherd named Wuzzy, a big, adorable, hyper, loving ball of fluff. She was a sweetie Had to be put down at the ripe old age of 14 when she broke her shoulder and the vet diagnosed it inoperable. My mom was there when poor Wuzzy was put to sleep. My mom cried and cried. I was sad too, but knew Wuzzy had bad arthritis, which is common to the Shepherd breed, and was relieved she was no longer in pain.

Condolences. I feel your pain. Just know the only cure for pain is to continue to love, so please do so. There are always new kitties and doggies who need adopting!

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