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This pain is not bearable

Tosoonmom
Tosoonmom
I don't know what to do....I don't know why all I am feeling is worst. Mom, you kerf this earth last Friday and I can't cope with anything and it's getting worst. This pain is getting more painful and I don't know how much more I can handle. I need help.
koolman
koolman
Try to relax more deeply and get some sleep. Don't fight it. Your mother might just be there to visit you and comfort you in a dream!
Tosoonmom
Tosoonmom
I try to sleep but it is very disturbed....it's almost like a delirious state that I go into. I can't sleep well. I can't relax..,constant headaches and thoughts of what should have happened...what happened and what I could have done prior to everything. It was to fast...it was a schock to all of us. Mom seemed fine until the middle of January. I don't understand any of it and I want to understand it all...I ache to understand it.
shur1
shur1
Blessed are those who mourn for they shall be comforted"
Grief has a mind of its own there is no right or wrong JUST BE ,
Moment to moment! When god comforts us he holds us tight were we cannot fly yet! Allow gods grace to come in and begin t heal your broken heart, little by little is the path to new beginnings !
Tosoonmom
Tosoonmom
I know grief has a mind of its own. I'm trying to allow grace in my life but all I have is anger and desperation....desperation to see my mom again. I know it will take a long time..but I feel like my life is over.
rosykitten
rosykitten
You're hurting because you miss your mom. Please know that there is nothing wrong with you. It's all normal. It's so raw and try small steps at a time. You don't have to cope with anything. How is it getting worse? Try not to make any decisions when you are really down. You don't want to make wrong decisions, you know.

Everyone grieves differently and grief is not an easy journey.
koolman
koolman
It's "just" (yeah, JUST, right!) the pain of separation. Maybe your mom, or God, will "send" you someone new to love, maybe a new little one born into your family! God is great at filling gaps.