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still trying to sort this out

tickclicker
tickclicker

Seven more days and it will have been a month since my fathers death.  Still trying to clean out his room, i probably started after week one.  I am getting images in my mind, poetic thoughts maybe a better term.  My dad and i smoked pipe tobacco for a time... and I'am watching some westerns maybe this is why i have had this thought.


Okay here it is,  I get this image in my mind as i toss away a couple of the pipes and old tobacco.  Its of my father and I on a good sized buck board, or frieght hauler. Anyway its way back before my time, and we are running hard like we got indians on our tail.  Dad is wounded shot bleeding a lot. we must be out a good 15 miles from our pursuers, we have slowed but still at a good pace,still a pretty rough ride but dad hands the reigns over to me and says what ever happens i love ya rye... and he jumps off out into the dark.  I still have to keep the pace if i am going to get to our destination.


Its been a hard month to say the least. these are wierd images and they freak me out.  painful for me brings more hurt. thanks for letting me put it out

brittanyd890
brittanyd890
Hi there. A month is still a very short time. February 5th will be 11 years since my grandma died and February 15th will be 13 years since my dad died. Sometimes I still feel like I'm trying to sort those out as well, especially around the time of the anniversaries of their deaths. We all grieve in our own time and at our own rate. The images you're getting our probably part of your grief process. Good luck.
Community LeaderThePepperMan
ThePepperMan
I think we all have odd dreams/images about our departed loved ones. Spending to much time analyzing them can drive us nuts. I go for the "Imagine that!" reaction and then let it go!
peaceful
peaceful
Im in the middle of sorting things too. 90 days today my sister died.
So many things we shared together.
People told me it would get easier. In some ways, yes, it is easier to think about the reality. Some moments better than others.
I have always thought the sorting and all this was the most difficult. Yet, has a lot of healing power to process thoughts and let them alone. Not let them go...leave them alone for a bit. And yes...those thoughts will bring you peace at some point when you look back and think about all the best memories.