Bereavement Support Group
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I lost a really good friend to suicide last November and I'm struggling with moving pass the tragedy. I attended her service hoping that I would find her at peace but the fact that it didn't even look like her tells me she suffered. Suicide is always hard to deal with, all the unanswered questions and the wondering if I could've done more to help her. I have accepted that she chose to take her own life but not knowing why makes me feel sad and confused.
Kim.
In the depression group we have a "rule" that we talk about; we call it the 'Airplane Oxygen Rule'.
You know how they tell you that if the oxygen masks drop down, put yours on first, then help others? Same sort of thing with emotional help. We need to make sure that we are strong enough to help others, because if we are not we end up taking us all down.
So until you are stronger and more able to live with not knowing why they did it, you may need to back off and not try to help others there. (Well, perhaps a quick 'accepting not knowing is my goal now')
It take time to sort through these things, and a couple of months is a good time for the initial shock to wear off, but finding your new normal can take longer.
Gentle hugs