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On October 18, 2014 My sister Hope (Age 27) her four children Dominic (Age 7), Autumn (Age 6), Serenity (Age 3), Victoria (Age 2) and my sister's father in law 'Ed were killed in a house fire. My sister's husband was the sole survivor. Initially speculations were possibly a space heater or maybe a cigarette...but then on January 16, 2015 we have found out that the house was deliberately set by someone who wanted revenge on my sister's husband.
I have the biggest hole in my heart and although I have encountered loss in the past never like this, and I know all that I need to do to move forward, but I am having the worst time caring. I feel so empty. To lose one person is hard to deal with but to lose 5 at once in our family is just devastating. I have no clue how to help my mom and the tension and conflict that has arouse in these families is too much to bare at times.
Has anyone gone through such a big loss and what helped you to deal with the days, sleep is my only comfort to escape this reality. I feel like I am crawling out of my skin when I am awake and trying to run from myself. I hate this so bad.
I have the biggest hole in my heart and although I have encountered loss in the past never like this, and I know all that I need to do to move forward, but I am having the worst time caring. I feel so empty. To lose one person is hard to deal with but to lose 5 at once in our family is just devastating. I have no clue how to help my mom and the tension and conflict that has arouse in these families is too much to bare at times.
Has anyone gone through such a big loss and what helped you to deal with the days, sleep is my only comfort to escape this reality. I feel like I am crawling out of my skin when I am awake and trying to run from myself. I hate this so bad.
Have you tried grief counseling? That can help, and you may need to take some anti-depressants for a while, just to get you on track.
I think you need to let yourself grieve when you need to. The grieving process can take as long as two years. But I also feel you need to do something to feel good about your life again. Is there a passion or a hobby you can take the time to do? Is there some kind of a group you can join, or volunteer? It is only 3 months, so don't be hard on yourself. You are going through a horrible tragedy, and it will take time and effort to come back out of the black hole you are now in.
Know that there are other out here who care. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Never been through that kind of loss, but watched my brother die of cancer and sepsis, and it was no less horrific. Condolences.
I've been compiling family videos my brother when he was here, alive and well. This has helped me soothe the savage beast of loss, and helps fill that hole in my heart, seeing him in full-motion and hearing his kind voice again:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lalMDM3TCKo
I've lost a baby to stillbirth, a 17 yearold daughter to ecoli food poisoning, both my parents to cancer, etc., and they are all so hard. Cry with your children and do something "just because of your loss" when they are sad, but try to enjoy fun times with them. I think we all learn what is really important when we go through tragedy and its kinda strange to see how innocently naive people are about the pain of grief. But we really cannot expect them to understand because that would mean that they had to suffer also!
Please contact me if you just wanna talk and try to have a great day :)
jenniko78
Everyone grieves differently and has different needs for coping. Be patient with your self and reach out to family, friends, churches, counselors or whoever can give you some help!!
Prayers to you!!!
At first there was nothing that could help, but I found that looking at pictures, remembering the good times we had together, even talking to his pictures as if it where him; has helped. If there was favorite music you listened to, try doing the things you did together when they were still here. Just be sure to let your feelings go.
I believe that they hear us and show us signs that they are watching. Getting in touch with your feelings can help relieve the grief and with time you will gain ground. It may take a long time but try to find someone to talk to, take gratitude in nature and just know that they are there with you.