OH WOW how shocking critter,OMG even if someone hasn't experienced grief,a little common sense and compassion please.
Im so sorry someone would be so ignorant.
BIG HUGS to you Hun

Wowww...amazing!!! Aren't we truly blessed to have these people around us???? One of my "so called" friends commented how sexy I looked after "slimming down", about 3 weeks after my mother passed away.

Don't worry critter, pests are everywhere. We're all dealing with them. Please come and vent, as much as you need to! Take care and I'm truly sorry someone got a chance of hurting you today :(

critter:
Some people are just not understanding-(they could use some SENSITIVITY TRAINING!!). It does feel better when you can vent. I feel bad for you that someone has hurt your feelings-(THEY AREN'T" WORTH IT,ANYWAY!!)

Tom B. aka Ihman

Some people just put things into words wrong!!
It doesn't make up for what they wrote... I am really really sorry....I know how much it hurts! Hugs!!!

critter718 I'm sorry you had to hear that in an e-mail like that. That is totally insensitive and it just proves how much someone Else's complete loss means nothing to others, because it doesn't affect them especially if they haven't lost someone very close to them (parent/child/sibling). I totally understand how you feel except I don't get e-mails, I get it told right to my face and on the phone.. from people like my wife.. her mother.. and a few others =( I cant tell you how hard it is for me to get through each day without my sweet caring momma. She was so young to die at 53...(just about 54 in July 2010).. and how she passed away is what hurts so much as well (choking).. she had another 20 years in her easy.. My mom got stolen from me fairly young and im stuck having to wait until heaven to see her.. and it barely affects some people around me =/ I go through agony each day and im struggling just to be stable and get by... and they careless pretty much. So my friend i totally understand and if you need to chat. I'm here. I'm so very sorry for the loss of such a young child =/ parents should not watch their children die before them... it should be the other way around..

Hugs ~~ (Tight squeeze one''s ,like my momma used to give me)

Luke~~ (feeling your pain =/ and hurt)

People need to think before they speak or type. I am sorry for your loss and the pain that e-mail brought. God bless you. Jan

I had a guy ask me that to my face last month!!! My baby passed away in January 2010 and this complete stranger asked me if I cried alot over it??? I was like, are you mentally stable? We just have to over look people like that bc more than likely, they have never walked down that road!! They can't honestly understand how to react to those of us that are hurting! Sorry about your daughter btw.....

My, now ex, fiance asked me 2 weeks after my son's death if I was still upset. I was on the phone with him and I yelled, or bellowed I'm not sure which 'YES I AM STILL UPSET!!! I AM SO FAR BEYOND UPSET YOU WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND!' Then I told him every detail of the investigation of the car accident he was in and details of the autopsy. Then I broke off our relationship.
People are just amazing. One really sweet older lady at church asked me "Aren't you happy that Brian is in heaven?" I think I just stood there dumbfounded and cross eyed. Speechless.
I am so sorry you have to walk this road of grief, may God bless you, Shelley

I totally understand. When my Michael died, a supposed friend from work told me "Maybe you should get a dog now" I couldn't believe my ears! Later when she sensed my dismay and I told her about it, she still didn't see the insensitivity of it. Some people need to walk in your shoes before they "get it". I feel your pain more than you know. Losing a loved one is hard, but losing a child is the worst kind of pain. Hope you find peace, hugs Roselle

I got this comment after my mom passed away, "Well, it IS better ISN'T IT?" Maybe mom was ready to go, but she did NOT want to and I DIDN'T want her to. This was from a small-minded, ignorant, insignificant woman. Remind me to say this to her when her husband dies...Well I don't have the heart and I have the brains to share compassion.
Maybe this is our message for the day?
Hugs,
Jan

Hi Critter,
I think we all receive those insensitive replies. I've had some whoppers as well... I had a vacation scheduled when my Mom was killed by a distracted driver the week before. Needless to say we didn't go on our vacation, but when I returned to work (and everyone knew what happened), I had someone ask if we had a good time on our vacation. I had another co-worker tell me that being upset won't bring her back so I should just get over it. All I could think was I am painly aware that I can't bring her back.

But one comment I will make is that I was shocked by the length of time grief. I literally thought I would be fine after a few weeks. Our society does a horrible job of understanding and respecting the grief process. We get 3 days for a funeral of a close relative?!

I have actually began talking to others about the grief process - those that have not been through it. Trying to educate and show my true emotions. I now have co-workers who recently lost loved ones come to me and ask how I dealt with my mom's death (it's been a little over a year now).

It is a process... I have lost close friends because they didn't want to be around my negativity. And from what I have read, this happens to many people. But I have also found new friends who are supportive and a more meaningful relationship.

I am glad you have found support on this site and I pray you can find that support in your life. Be gentle with yourself and know there are others who do care and understand. May God Bless you and I pray you find comfort in the small things while you go through this incredibly difficult time.

Some people are jerks.... After a loss of a child nothing is ever the same, it always hurts. Just how we deal with it may improve with time. I hope you find comfort with your friends here. Its been 17 months since I lost my son, pain is part of my day some days are better than others. Hugs to you Penny

Oh thats awful critter and this person sure is a jerk to be sure. Its a good job most of us know how to be caring on here. I too am sorry for your loss as i too lost a child a few years agoxx