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retirement and grief by vader

vader
vader
In may it was 6 years that I lost my Brad and it has been a living hell since then.Only with the support of these wonderful people on Daily Strength I have been able to come through.But here is one question....What do you do when you are of retirement age like myself and your partner is no longer alive? Should I retire? There are so many things and places that I would like to go to...Brad was younger then me and he if he was around would not be able to go....The doctor just told me because of my hearing I cannot work much longer.What shall I do? Please i do need advice.
Veronica77
Veronica77
I would retire and enjoy life. Life is for the living!
Scott46
Scott46
Hi Vader. We've talked before; although its been a couple years. I had to take a break from DS. Anyway, Brad the abuser is gone and I would not waste one more second thinking about him. As for you, Veronica is right, life is short. Can you afford to retire and travel? Definitely sit down and do some serious math and planning. Where you want to go, and what you want to do. Also keep in mind that retirement does not have to be irreversible. You could travel and enjoy life for a while and go back to work when or if money gets tight. And while your options may become limited due to your hearing, there are still jobs out there.

There is another approach to decisions I have used in the past. Imagine yourself very old and sitting there in the nursing home. Your time on this earth is nearing an end. You are reflecting back on your life. What will you regret? What will you be proud of? What will you wish you did? What made you happy? I read a bit of advise recently. "Don't die with your music still in you". Music of course being a metaphor for whatever makes you happy.
metwodogs
metwodogs
Think about what he would want for you. In my case, I know that my husband want me to be happy and enjoy my life.
vader
vader
yo all who replied especially Scott 46 and i thank you.I just signed up and I am taking painting and drawing classes at the local library and it is fun not to think about Brad.He is gone.It was 6 years in May and I love retirement and i am taking the time off as was advised too..but it will not be permentet as things Are getting pricey in Seattle and i may have to go back to work for at least a few days a week and I do not mind it.Thanks to all.vader
Scott46
Scott46
Yes, that's another thing I forgot to mention. You can always transition to retirement by working part time; assuming you have a job that allows for the flexibility. It sounds like you are doing it right. Taking classes and getting out. I was also going to suggest some short trips to get your traveling feet wet. Weekend trips cam be great and not cost much. Take care Vader.
Scott