I have always been there. Whenever mom or dad had any kind of need, surgeries, support, I came. Dad had major heart surgery, I came to be with him and support mom. Mom had 2 hip replacements, I was there to help her and dad. When dad passed, I came and stayed for weeks to pack up all his things and help mom thru it. I live in another state, husband, 2 children and work. I have an older brother and younger sister that also live in a different state. Last July mom's neighbor called to inform me mom was in the hospital with pneumonia. I flew out the next day to spend 2 weeks. Along with pneumonia, found rare, aggressive lung cancer. Sister had come when I went home while waiting for diagnosis, brother had come for a week when sister had to go home. After I got back to mom, I had decided that I was staying for the duration because she came straight home to hospice and she wanted to stay in her home. Left my home, family and friends because I wanted to give mom her last wish. It was all I could do for her.
In Oct. I knew mom was close to death and informed siblings. The hospice nurses and I kept mom very comfortable and relatively pain free without much medications. Sister came late Friday night and brother told me to let him know when it was over. Mom went unresponsive Sat morning and continued that way until she passed on a Wed. During this time sister gave her a lot of morphine, assuming she must be in pain. I am mostly OK with this as mom made it clear to all of us that she did not want to live in a certain condition.
Brother came but I was so angry at him for not even attempting to be with her before she passed. Sister and I made funeral arrangements earlier, but she left before the services because she had to get back to work and said she isn't really a people person, she said.
As executor, I had to deal with everything and still am. Sold her home to my son at a cheaper price, but mom would have loved knowing they are taking care of her beloved home. We still made a nice profit, but now sister thinks she should have made more and wanted my son to give her thousands more. She has since asked when she is going to receive the rest of the estate money cause she has bills to pay.
Now sister is out of the country on a nice vacation, I'm still not speaking much to brother expect updates on estate, and I am home trying to deal with it all. Yesterday went and ordered mom's grave stone to bury her this spring/summer. She wanted to come to my state to be buried with us in our plots.
I'm sorry this is so long, this is just the short version as a lot happened in between including a major health issue for me. My problem is the growing resentment I'm feeling for my sister and brother. They walked out after she passed and left me to deal with everything. They take their vacations, go to work, live their life while I have yet to be able to really deal with the grief of losing my mom. Almost every single moment mom or this resentment issue is on my mind.