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recently lost my sister

Ive1021
Ive1021
I lost my only sister 3.5 weeks ago to the effects of scleroderma. She had been battling this disease for over 10 years and she is gone now. I still can't believe it, I still think about calling her many times a day. She was 13 years older than me so she was like a mother as well to me. I can't share my grief with my mother because she has dimentia and does not understand whats going on. My father passed away last year. I feel that I'm left alone to grieve her death. She did have many friends and her two nephews my two sons are left but they don't understand or can share with my level of loss. I'm glad I found this site. Hope to learn about all your stories and be comforted by them.
jessicamullinax
jessicamullinax
So sorry you have no one to grieve with its hard especially if your alone. I lost my cousin 5 yrs ago and I wish I could tell you that someday you will wake up and it all be gone but its not like that the pain will never go away you will have to find ways to cope with it and try and try to take time out for you. And its ok to break down and lose it. We all go through those moments. Im here for you!
barbarame
barbarame
Your beloved sister is very close to you. You will "hear " her in quiet meditation times - remember that those who go before us, do not mourn the loss of us - because they have indeed not lost us. It might sound odd to say that I am thankful your mom has dementia and is spared the sorrow you feel. We are all here for the same reason you are, and you will be softly upheld and gently guided to a healing space. Use your journal, it is a great help. BARBARA xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Ive1021
Ive1021
Thanks for the kind responses!!! Barbarame I agree with you in a way. I'm thankful for my mothers dimentia as well. It would be so painful to see her suffering for my sister's death.
Ive1021
Ive1021
Jessica , I pray for something good to come from this.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hello lve, I am so sorry about your sister. am sorry you are unable to share this with others too. yes I understand what Barbara mentioned due to dementia..ur mom at least is not suffering the loss. my prayers that God gives you wisdom and peace to get through this situation. please remember that your sis is looking out for you and she wants you to be peaceful. I know its difficult..if possible try to remember to take only one day at a time. my prayers and hugs to u.
Regards.
neilster
neilster
I'm 41 with only one sibling - my older brother 44... well.. he died suddenly last month and it's left me without my 'simon cowell', the only guy who's opinion really counted. He has a sudden heart attack with no early warnings, was on his way out of the house to go to the hospital because that morning he wasn't feeling good and before he made it our, already dressed with shoes on, the grim reaper came and knocked him out of this world. 30 minutes earlier, he may have been saved. It is killing my parents and I, we miss him a lot, he was a full 1/4 of the family and i have no wife or kids nor did he, we've actually shrunk as a nuclear family over the 40 years. Very sad. I feel terrible for you, as a sibling we are not always considered but part of us dies with our sibling, all the jokes we had going 40 years strong.... all the immaturity we hung onto together... in many ways i am lost.... he was married and he and his wife's family were like mines but now everything will break up since they have no kids together.... anyhow enough about me, the best advice i have for you is come here every day and read the newspapers and you'll soon realize how not-alone we are.. death is as everyday for humanity as a cup of coffee, so better enjoy your coffee while you can with on regrets is what i say.
We are only satisfied that he lived his life the way he wanted to until the end, unlike most of us including me who have had to take detours from our passions time and time again just to survive. Try to look at the positive things in her life against the gritty reality death comes to us all eventually.