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I had to write this column.This "words of comfort"been asked my several peop-le since the untimely death of Brad and i would like to know what it means."What are you going to do now?" And what does it mean? My name is vader.I am 63 years old and I am old enough to be every ones grandmother.The reason why I write so much is because i want to help all of the others who are grieving and I do believe it helps.But does does the following comment mean? I have always had goals in life.But I am from a blue collar working family.Everything I had I worked for and I know nothing else but work and I try to save my money,But I had very hard breaks in life and i could not pursue my music.I try to sing every now and then but the music business is very hard to get into in seattle and I dont like some of the people out today.Yesterday I went out for lunch with the girls something that I havent done in a long time,these women know about Brad and frankly I have been miserable.Then one of the ladies asked me the above question...:"What are you going to do now?" And franky,it has stumped.Well,the first thing that I am doing is that I am not moving.I intend to stay in the house because I cant afford to move.And I cant relocate back to New York,I cant afford to either,so I am staying put for awhile.The second thing I have been doing is trying to get a part time job.ANd I have had no success in it.As for my music...I simply dont know.The music lessons here cost a lot of money.And I cant afford music lessons now.So I quit my singing for awhile.As for starting a business,just who are these people kidding? WHERE IS THE MONEY? Does anyone know? And id
still dont know what to do for the rest of my life,.I simply dont know what to do.What would you say? What does a 63 year old semi retired woman do?
still dont know what to do for the rest of my life,.I simply dont know what to do.What would you say? What does a 63 year old semi retired woman do?
Keep it simple! With goals I always remember - "short term - intermmediate - long term". This helped me so much when my brother died. Just getting out of bed was a "short term" goal for weeks.
But, I did it.
When my 2nd ex-husband died it was so hard. The loss of the divorce re0visted me, all we never got to do, all the difficulites we encountered, the feeling of "being robbed" a second time and all the joys we shared - a chunk of time gone. So the "goals thing" helped...I do at least one kind thing daily to 'pay it forward' in his memory. I take holiday items from the dollar store to his grave (he would have liked that I don't spend a lot of $ on the items). "Intermmediated goal" was to find more ways to have fun without spending a ton of money...my solution was using the local library,
It all still has yet to "come together" BUT I am trying to lower my expectaions and be happy with completing my daily "to do" list.
Stay well.
Me, after a nice conversation with my mom tonight, I'm going to chase my brother down the rabbit hole for awhile (spiritually anyway, in my sleep) and then I'll think of something to do tomorrow (do some video editing, bike-ride, think of what class I'd like to take over the summer, maybe screenwriting).