I Had to write this column because I am getting to be like Jerry Springer..In fact in my old age,I am getting to be quite nasty.There was a pop star in my day who had an acid tongue.His name was John Lennon and I can see why John was the way that he was.During the xmas holidays..I took the bus down town because Brad was sleeping.Brad is in rehab and he is doing well but sometimes it can get stressful.I was on the bus and I got up to go to Starbucks..someone tapped me on the shoulder and it was someone whom I worked with many years ago.She was going shopping downtown also and I frankly had nothing to do.Many of my friends in seattle have moved back home..some have gone to senior housing and some just moved left no address..her phone number is the only one I have left.I ordered coffee and so did she and she got us a seat.I started to have a very bad feeling..She asked me about my family and she asked me about Frank.I told her that Frank had passed in August of 2004.She did not want to say..in fact she was at a loss for words.Then she had the gall to ask me what Frank died of and I told her..then she said"Hes better off." I never lose my temper..but when she said this..I lost my cool.What does this remark mean? What does the remark also mean that it is time to move on? What does it mean to say that time heals all wounds? What about the lady who lost her only son in Iraq? How can time heal her wounds? How can time heal mine? And how can a person whom she never knew..be better off? Is he saying that Frank is better off dead? I got up and went to the ladies room..I was crying.The manager who was on break..saw and heard the whole thing..he told me that he was so sorry and I asked him if there was a different way out and he showed me the different way out and I left her in Starbucks drinking her latte.I have never seen her again and she has never bothered to call.I feel that she owes me an apology but Brad and I are getting along so much better and I am getting to be happier now then I have never been.People can and still upset me..I cant take them anymore..but I promised Frank to move on..I did promise him that I would mourn him for 5 years.I promised him that I also stop wearing black and these dark colours..but I cant find anything else..Soon it will be 5 years..but I am also joining another group..I cant wait to go and I will tell everyone about it.Love Vader and the cats..Tuffy has been a little stinky.I let Tuffy out because it has been snowing and rather cold..She walked over in the yard next door..and she just did number two on this ladys doorstep..this is something that she has never did..Tooey has been a stinky also..I caught the both of my cats..trying to climb the tree outside! So I have to go and calm them down! Cats hate to be inside and they hate the cold!
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