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It took me almost 6 months to realize that I was having symptoms of PTSD, and anxiety attacks. At first I just thought they were bad Asthma attacks.
Triggers are things that you avoid, that remind you the event -- smells, sounds, people, places.. ect.
You may also have things such as difficutly sleeping, heightened sense of awareness 0r always being on gaurd, increased irritability, agitation, nightmares and flashbacks.
Prior to PTSD is the PTS part. Understanding the loss, accepting and grieving it now, will allow you to move on.
I am sorry for the loss that brings you here.
You might also write him a letter. To get out words unsaid. This often happens if when they were ill prior to passing. It's our nature only talk of light things, not the deep stuff, if they are in pain. The deep stuff can be put in the letter. So you address it. (and he sees it, if you are of that belief)
During a PA, a ice cold drink of water can help grounding, feeling the cold in your mouth bringing you back to the "now". Letting the PA run it's course and wane away.
You HAVE to make time for this, to sink into the well and meditate on this person and what they meant to you, maybe cry a little, or cry a lot. But, I agree, you have to rejoin the living, in THIS world, too. It's about balance, making time for both.
If you're trying to avoid hurting, it's a futile effort. It's OK to be upset. Only by going through pain will you gently begin to push forward. The pain hurts less when you allow yourself to sink into it. This avoidance of pain is causing fear which is causing panic. Embrace that which scares you. Embrace it with love. Then, with time and patience, it won't scare you anymore.
If you're taking a new medication and you had a panic attack, observe the next few weeks and talk to your therapist. If you don't have a therapist, find one, a certified grief counselor, preferably. And don't put any blame or judgment on yourself. Anxiety is part of the grieving process (not the mourning process, that's different and comes later). As far as PTSD is concerned (as mentioned by other posters), this is a REAL and bizarre event that can literally overtake you anywhere, any time. Intrusive thoughts, increased anxiety, not being able to turn "off" the "voice in your head" that goes over and over the event: all signs of PTSD. Counter conditioning takes months in a human being but it can be done. Ask your therapist.