Bereavement Support Group
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Hello all,
I'm here because my mom passed away last Saturday from COPD. She didn't smoke except for heavy second-hand smoke as a child growing up - both her parents, and briefly in college and after, but never a lot. My mom was 85, but seemed so vital and young, except for her lungs.
I have a lot of "I wish I had __________" with my Mom. Wish I had more than just dragged myself home from work, made dinner when she could no longer, and watched tv with her and went to bed. I wish I had gone on day trips with her on the weekends. Wish I had helped her build a vegetable garden which she would have loved, helped her clean up her house, and moved in with her there, instead of having her stay in my cramped apartment.
Mom lived with me the last 5 or 6 years. We never really took her COPD seriously til months towards the end. I think we were both in denial.
I griped about my mom a lot with my older sister, who lived 2 hours away. I love my mom and admire her a lot for what she worked for and accomplished in her life, but she was often hard to deal with (sorry Mom!). I made Mom the focus of my life for much of my life. I'm 53, unmarried, no kids, just a cat and now 2 goldfish.
I know I'm going to miss Mom a lot, know I'm going to beat myself up with guilt that I didn't do enough for Mom. I didn't, but I'm going to have to be able to learn to live with that and not take 100% of the blame.
Anyway, good to be here with all of you and I look forward to getting to know you.
Kathy
I'm here because my mom passed away last Saturday from COPD. She didn't smoke except for heavy second-hand smoke as a child growing up - both her parents, and briefly in college and after, but never a lot. My mom was 85, but seemed so vital and young, except for her lungs.
I have a lot of "I wish I had __________" with my Mom. Wish I had more than just dragged myself home from work, made dinner when she could no longer, and watched tv with her and went to bed. I wish I had gone on day trips with her on the weekends. Wish I had helped her build a vegetable garden which she would have loved, helped her clean up her house, and moved in with her there, instead of having her stay in my cramped apartment.
Mom lived with me the last 5 or 6 years. We never really took her COPD seriously til months towards the end. I think we were both in denial.
I griped about my mom a lot with my older sister, who lived 2 hours away. I love my mom and admire her a lot for what she worked for and accomplished in her life, but she was often hard to deal with (sorry Mom!). I made Mom the focus of my life for much of my life. I'm 53, unmarried, no kids, just a cat and now 2 goldfish.
I know I'm going to miss Mom a lot, know I'm going to beat myself up with guilt that I didn't do enough for Mom. I didn't, but I'm going to have to be able to learn to live with that and not take 100% of the blame.
Anyway, good to be here with all of you and I look forward to getting to know you.
Kathy
Big hug to you, and thank you for your prayers,
Kathy
Again, I'm very sorry for your loss, I hope the happy memories will fill your mind more than anything else.
I believe the good memories will outweigh any others more and more with time .... and they are already there! I am very very sorry for your loss too. Our moms are irreplaceable! Nothing will fill that void, but we just have to accept that terrible loss and hope the sharp edges of grief will smooth over soon. My mom always believed in moving forward. She had a real set-back with the death of my younger brother 8 years ago (glioblastoma - brain cancer). I did not know it because my mom and I lived apart at that time .... but my mom spent about a year in bed. She'd come over on Sundays and we'd watch movies together, and I really had no idea she was in such deep grief for a year. She kept it hidden. I wish she had been more open about that.
Anyway, just wanted to say a great big thank you. I'm so sad by our mutual losses of our moms. Just glad I found you and this group.
May we find healing here!!
Big hugs, xoxo
Kathy