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featherwolf09
featherwolf09
My boyfriend's father passed away in October 2010 and I've had to help my boyfriend alot and support him alot until he could really think straight again. He heals fast.

But, his mom doesn't heal as fast and she lost her very special person. She going through a depression and doing the normal grieving things.

Just sometimes it's hard to talk to her because she brings her husband up and says that she just misses him so much. It catches me off guard and I just freeze up and don't know what to say to her.

I don't want her to think that I don't care, but I don't want her to think that I know what she's going through. She says she appreciates that I do care. But, I'm just sorta confused.

So, is there any different kind of way that I could approach this.
angeleyes92
angeleyes92
if she wants to talk about her husband be willing to listen. if she wants to share stories about him, share some of yours. just being there to listen will mean a lot to her but she would probably also like to hear how others think of the man she loves and how they remember him
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hello.It is sweet of you to care enough about your BFs mom,to even look for answers.It is important for you to understand that she brings up missing her husband,because it is on her mind everyday.She is grieving a very great loss.Many times asking a question such as "what do you miss the most?" or "what was his favorite food?" can advance the conversation,and give her the chance to talk about him.Even the statement "It must be so hard" will show, that although you do not know what she is going through,you acknowledge her loss.Doing these things will help heal her heart.Peace......Cheryl
featherwolf09
featherwolf09
Yea. I'm sorta trying to get closer to her more. I didn't know that I would be with my boyfriend for 3 years and we plan on staying with each other.

I just haven't spent alot of time with his mother. I'm gonna think of things me and her could do together sometime.

Thanx angeleyes92 and strohm.
deleted_user
deleted_user
listen is the best advice for you, lost goes vey deep,my sister lost her husdand 17 yrs ago, and still talks about her pain, losinga child you never forget, and for me both parents, things change, but you cant forget ever, just be there, it helps to have someone who will listen and care!!!
featherwolf09
featherwolf09
All three comments all say the same thing. That just listening helps someone. I am a good listener.

It's just responding to what she says is difficult. She's going thru a hard time and I don't wanna say something that makes me sound robotic or anything that would make her upset. That's all.