After I wrote my column for today,I got a phone call.Monday is laundry day for me.I do all of the laundry and housework and clean the house and the cats love it when I clean also.I got a call from someone whom I worked with and she was vey,very distraught.Her name is Connie and her husband was 52 when he passed and they have one son 28.He came home the other day and told Connie that he wanted a place of his own.When he told her this,she called me and asked what she can do.I have never married so I do not know what it is like losing a husband of 25 years..all I know is that it was least expected and they found out that he a heart murmur that was not picked up on all of these tests.Her son was very close to his father and they did everything together.But when I saw him.he told me that he wanted a place of his own for privacy.He told me that Connie and his grandmother after the death of his father have been unbearable.One night after work..he and his friends went drinking and when he came home,Connie exploded.All I know is that Connie just lost her husband in June of this year and I have been told that certain people who work with her and some of her close friends do not want to bother with her anymore.I have never seen her cry at all.I did not know her reaction.But I do think that she is reacting to her son very foolishly.Connie has always worked and I know that she has got a penny saved.Her son was going to college and I guess saved his money for a down payment on this place.First of all...he is not 17..he is a grown man.Men do react to grief differently and I think that he needs time alone.Connie does not understand this.GUYS NEED PRIVACY.They need privacy more then a woman does.Now suppose he comes home with a girl..what will Connie do? He is not against his mother.Never have or will be.He just wants to sort things out and he told me that every time that he wants to talk..she tells me not to think about it.What kind of response is this..Dont think about it? What does it mean? People are trying to reach out to her and I see that she is turning them away.I know that people are grieving differently..but what do you say to a 28 year old man who wants a place of his own? I think that he is 28 or younger..but I do think that she and he both need time to sort things out and to see about their future.What would you do? Now she is mad at me! I said in a nice way that he needs privacy to think about certain issues right now.I did not come out with vicious things.I never do.I try to think before I talk.I am not like some of these talk show hosts who rumble before the guests speak.Please tell me if I did the right thing.I will write again tomorrow.,Vader.
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