Lost my Mom last August. Boy I know what you mean about not being able to phone or ask their advice.

Your dad taught you everything you need to know and deep down inside you carry it with you, whether you recognize it or not. Don't worry, just be who you are - his legacy.

hang in there

hugs and prayers,
Becky

I'm sorry for both your losses. My mom died when I was 15 after losing her 3 yr battle with throat cancer. My dad died when I was 20 of a sudden heart attack. I think my dad's dealth was the hardest because it was so sudden.
I'm 39 now and it still can be hard not having my parents. But I hate to say that you get use to missing them. It doesn't mean you don't love them. But you move on with your life, which we are meant to do.
Whether you know it or not, you probably do live up to your dad's standards.
Hugs!

i right here with you,
i havelost my mother and father this past year.i am trying to concentrate on all of the wonderful memoires, but i am so lonly for them.

i love and miss you mom and dad (and brother,that passed away 6 months before them)!!!

i am here if you need to talk.
joyce

That is so sad. He sounds like my dad. Mine was 61 when he died. It does hurt thinking you can't call him anymore. I feel the same way about living up to his standards.
Sounds like you had one of those wonderful dads too.

i lost my dad in april this year and i know just how you feel my dad loved being the centre of attention and everybody loved him i still 5 weeks later ring his mobile just to hear his voice i have photos up all over my house and i think that helps

You already have....lived up to his standards. To be able to articulate so well all those hard, hard feelings shows someone pretty special. Your Dad can hear you and you CAN ask his advice and watch for answers to come. His spirit is very much alive; think of it as the butterfly that finally got loose of the cocoon....he is free and can be anywhere he wants to, including Heaven. God bless you, I sure know those feelings of missing someone that badly. We miss their physical presence.

Beckeroo

Your father would be proud of you. I lost my father at the age of 62 as well of lung cancer. It hurt extra bad also because I lost my mother the year before and he was the only parent that I had left.

hang in there, we are all here to listen

All my life I phoned my Mom for advice whether it be how to cook something or how to handle a crisis.She died dec 30 2006.if she was not at home I would call my father in law for the same advice and now he has 3 months to live and the way he is going I do not think it will be that long.It sounds like your dad was a great person..and you are already living up to his standards when you speak so highly of him..he taught you well

wow... you articulated everything i've been thinking/feeling about my dad. i take solace in knowing that i'm not the only one to feel this way... it hits me hardest when i'm working on things around the house and i need help and my first thought is always, "i'll call dad, he'll know" then a split second later it hits me... that's when it feels the cruelest.

thank you... you just made me feel not so alone... not so crazy for missing him so damn much.

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My Dad died June 17,2006 and it has changed my life in ways I never thought. I know how hard this is my dad was only 67. both much too young to leave us. I'm sure your dad is proud of you! Take care of yourself and know there are others who share your pain.

my father was murder in 2002. i understand how you feel. my father was exactly the same. he actually was the town Santa. we all hope to live up to the standards of our parents. especially if they where wonderful.

Its rough i know i just lost my father in an accicent in december. Keep your head up. Everyday it gets a little better.