I don't think you are crazy, everyone feels different about things. I considered moving back to Wisconsin, but on a trip to mom's this past summer, I realized that my home really was in Illinois. I want to stay here, this was my husbands childhood home, and it makes me feel secure in some sort of weird way.
You do what is best for you...just don't do anything in haste that you may regret later! (((((HUGS))))) Kat

No I don't think you're crazy. I too am feeling like this. I think that death causes us to think about our life. It also allows us to think about life after death. Sometimes it's a scarry thing to give up all the grief and dispair, but it also is a way for us to start all over again. Will we ever forget? No way, but we all do need to go on with life. I think it's very normal. All I can add is do allot of soul searching for your answer. Good luck to you.

I too have felt this Eileen. I have lived here in Florida for the past 14 years and have lost two of my brothers and my Dad. It seems like everywhere I pass whether it's my Dad's old house, the hospital where he passed, or the old offices of his and my brother that saddens me. My little brother is wanting to move to Paris for a year to get a away from it all and just experience new things without the bad memories. I have always wanted to move to another place, but have more of a desire to do so now. I still have to wait a couple more years cause I'm in school though. If you feel like you need to start over and this would be the best for you and your son I would do it, but I know it would be hard for your son if he had friends he had to leave. I don't have any children so in your situation I'm not sure what I would do. Your husband did just pass away, so I would give yourself some time to heal and maybe you'll feel different about it. I'm so very sorry for your loss.

Eileen, You are absolutely not crazy. I did exactly what you are talking about. My husband passed away Dec. 7, 2006 and I moved immediately. My situation was a little different...he committed suicide in my bedroom. There was no way I would ever be able to sleep in that room again. We lived in his childhood hometown where his family still lives and they were not supportive of me or my children (his children too) so I moved to where I would have some support. That just so happens to be to NC right beside my step-daughter. She has been there for me and that is what I need right now. If there is somewhere that you could go with people who will be emotional support for you and your child, I would say do it. If you would be moving to an unknown place to start anew, I would discourage that. You need a network of supportive people right now. I have heard that you are not supposed to make any major changes until at least a year after a death, but that really depends on your circumstances. God bless you. I know it's tough.

My father died December 15, 2006. My mother has felt the same way you do since December 16th. I think it is a step in your grieving process. I pray God give you peace and wisdom to decide what is best for you and your son.

You are not crazy for feeling that way. But you might be feeling intense anxiety that is fueling your desire to move. Take a breath first, weigh the pros and cons. Is there family in the south? If you just want to get away, you may move and find you still have that feeling. Just give yourself time to think it through.

It is complicated, but you have a lot going on right now. You are not crazy. Just sorting it all out.


First of all, always remember you have choices!


That's part of it, maybe your mind is telling you now you have the chance, you are free to go anywhere you want, do anything you want..... but do NOTHING in great haste.


If you are truly thinking of moving, maybe a short vacation to the area you are thinking of moving TO would be in order to check it out ahead of time. A few days in the new area, a little time to yourself, and see if you really want to go that far away. Or if it feels good to get home after you've been away.


Everybody is different. Some people are comforted by staying with all the familiar stuff, the same home, the same stores, the same church, etc. Some people cannot live with the "ghosts" because everywhere they look they have memories of the deceased, and so they move to where the deceased loved one never lived to get away from all those intense memories all the time, every day.


Only you can decide what is best for you. However one thing is for certain: no matter where you go, you cannot escape or outrun your grief. There's no such thing as a geographical cure.


Once again, you have choices. If you move and you don't like it, you can always move back.


hugs,
Becky

no matter where you move, the memories will follow you. leaving family and friends may be a blessing or a curse. you may try a minor move. to a new house/apartment in your area. i have a sister-in-law that ran from home over an abortion, and it followed her from pa to tx. the only difference in tx no one knew about it. i would think long and hard and talk to family and friends before making any decisions. the funeral director told my mother not to make any major decisons for 6-18 months, allow her to get thru the major part of the grieving process.

I think your thoughts of moving away are justified, but in all reality, running from your memories or your grief will do no good. I thought it would get easier when i went to college. Actually, it got worse...and i mean ALOT worse. I think you should embrace your family and friends rather than moving away. I understand that coming home everyday to the same house brings painful memories. But i think at the same time if you moved away, it would make you upset if you moved because just thinking that your old house was full of the good memories too.