Sending a hug and warm thoughts to you. This must be a difficult time. msali

TEH ONLY THING I KNOW IS IS THAT LIKE MY MOTHER, COULDN'T PASS ON SOMETHING SHE NEVER LEARNED FROM HER PARENTS. I'M SRY YOUR IN SO MUCH PAIN AND I HOPE ONEDAY YOU WILL GET THE ANSWERS TO YOUR QUESTION.

My fathers mother was not a nice person. When she died I had the job of telling him and his reply was 'She died? GOOD!'. Needless to say he didn't go to the funeral. Her other two kids couldn't be located. The rest of us considered it a good excuse to get together and take the day off from work. It ended up being the funniest funeral I've ever been to. I doubt that anyone has been to her grave. Nor does anyone feel bad about it. But as I told my half sister, if it weren't for her, none of US would be around. So maybe that's the best thing you can take away from it. We can't choose our relatives, and it seems a lot of them are pretty awful, but if it weren't for them we wouldn't be here and the good things we've done would not be done, so try and concentrate on that and the good things you do.
My mother died in March and we were very close but my dad and I weren't speaking when he died. He didn't want any funeral or a grave. He was cremated and wanted to have his ashes scattered at sea. We did get a marker for him at the local veterans cemetery, butI haven't been there. I have pictures of it. That's about all. Concentrate on your brother and his family. They seem to be doing well and a source of joy for you as well as for them.

I just lost my Mom in September 2007, so it's all still new to me. I lived with my Mom my whole life - and while we bitterly argued at times, she was all a mother should be - and always there for me.

On the hand, my parents were divorced - and my Dad was not the same kind of nurturing parent as Mom. We weren't close, and I had my grievances with him. He died six months after Mom, but I saw to his needs in his last year or so, as well - even telling him he wasn't alone.

I haven't forgotten my Dad's good or bad points but at this point I've put them behind me, I pray for his soul and visit his grave. I think that's pretty much what you have to do. I hope you can put your grievances (whatever they were) to rest...so that your mother can rest, too. My guess is she still loves you...So, the answer is - to just try...just try. Joining others in sending you hugs and the power to forgive.

I know how u feel, today was rough and so was yesterday. It is my first Mother's Day without my mom, so I spent almost all day crying. I will be allright, or so my close friends say. I am trying. TY dear`for talking, sharing our feelings helps heal our hearts.

I am sorry for your loss. I hope that your find some help and hope here. i think our parnets can only give to us what they them self have and if they didnot get it from their parnets they have nothing to give to us I hope you understand what I am trying to say good luck take care I am thinking of you today praying also ((((((huggs)))))kathyjo

VADER, My mom was difficult too and I loved her too death. My dad ,who just died, use to say if you did your best then don't kick yourself. I believe,if you still feel the loss then you did your best and your MOM knows it. She gave you what she could give -maybe her best?
Buy a balloon let it go and say Happy Mother's Day . I hope your day is copeable and peace.

First of all-I want to thank all of you this has been a sore topic for me.My mother was always difficult but I just cannot seem to forget her.Happy Mothers Day!

No matter what the relationship is do we ever forget, no probally not. Memories and feelings linger on. Do not feel guilt for not going to the grave. I do not believe it is important God wants you show you love those around you NOW. So take a deap breath and celebrate the life she led. Although at times you did not agree with it all. I am sure there is one memory that makes you smile. And I am right there with you, I LOVE MY BROTHERS!!!! Thank God for them. Here is a hug for you.

This is to all.Thank You.All I can say is that I did celebrate Mothers Day.I went out for coffee and got the paper.Brad brought me a chicken and then I answered some e mail.I may go home and this is due to the tax rebate check.I havent seen my brother in 4 years and he is going to be 70.All be one good terms with your siblings and I will tell you all why.There will be a time in life where you will need them and there wont be a lot of people around.My friend hasnt spoken to me in 4 years and I do not care to find out why because whatever I said I did not mean it,but friends have to know this..We all are entitled to an opinion and if the opinion hurts them they are not adults,they are children and they must learn that mature people accept others regardless of what they think.Thanks a bunch.