So sorry for your loss. I just found this site so I am not an expert, but I know that it's so important to find support and to be able to talk/write about your loss. You are not alone and yes, the grief is excruciating. I didn't find much help through family and friends, so I had to look elsewhere in order to survive. Your loss is so recent, I am sure you might still be in a kind of numb/shock state. I am just beginning to come out of this horrible fogginess of disbelief and indecision after losing my husband 4 months ago. From what I learned here on this site, is that the grieving process is different for each person, but that it is something each of us has to go through. I don't want to intrude on any of your beliefs, but I heard about Griefshare.org. There are groups that meet in different churches (you can see if there is one near you) The groups meet once a week for I think maybe 12 wks. I didn't reach out at first. You have already taken a big step asking for advice. I've been reading a lot of posts on this site (probably more in the Widows and Widowers Support Group), but there is a commonality. So, reading a lot of posts, helps so much. Again, I am so sorry for your loss. People here really do care and if you need to release your emotions and tell your story do so. Be good to yourself, that's important too. Caring hugs. Margie

My deepest and most heartfelt sympathy to you.
You are still in shock and disbelief.
You are not alone and we are here for you.
I am guessing that is a picture of your beautiful daughter in your avatar (thank you for sharing her with us).
I know it sounds cliche', but it will take time.....lots of time for healing.....so be patient and gentle with yourself as you begin your grief journey.
It is not natural for a parent to bury their child and therefore your life is changed forever ((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))
I've walked this same walk with my parents in the loss of my brother 40 years ago (he was 16....killed in a motorcycle accident).
You will never get over it (sorry)....but you can get through it with the help of other compassionate souls that share a common thread.
I do believe there is a group here for parents that lost a child....but am happy you found us too.
Take care of you and lean on others until you find your footing....and beyond.

We lost my sister in 2011. It hit my parents very hard. Mom was just starting to show signs of dementia at the time, and I think that made it much harder for her to process the loss. My sister's husband is now in a relationship, they are engaged. He kept the scope of the relationship quiet, at least from my family.

No worries.

Dad and I kind of figured it out for oursleves (we had little contact with them, so our evidence was rather slim) in 2014, about 3 months after mom passed away.

Dad was very excited for him, and wanted him to be happy.

Sorry for the long story, but it looks like within 3 years dad accepted it and was happy that his son in law was moving forward. Don't get me wrong, dad loved his daughter and missed her a lot up to the day he passed away.

But he processed it and found a happy place to be.

Gentle hugs

So sorry for your loss, the people here are a wonderful support, Morita has giving some great info. I have lost my mother in law, mother, father and aunt, but I cannot imagine losing a child. Hugs to you!

So sad to read about your loss. Wish I knew words that could ease the pain. Hang in there...and with this group. Other support counseling may be beneficial too. Having 2 daughters and a son, it overwhelms me with how sad you must be. May god guide you safely...

Jody, I also extend my sincere condolences to you. I cannot imagine what you are going through.....that must be the most heart-wrenching thing in the world though.
I wish I had adequate words but I don't think there are adequate words. But know this, we care, and there is help if you need it, here and I would seek out help nearby to you also.
Do you have a good support system ? Meaning friends and family ?
Church would be nice, if you do have that.
Though I don't go to church anymore myself ---but since people who do, find great support that way, I mentioned it.
When my husband died (almost 2 years ago now) I did go to a church for that reason.
That particular one did not feel like a good fit for me and I am still thinking to find one that is.

I hope you stay in touch with us here and keep posting when you can.....but if you don't want to, I do hope you have someone to be with, talk with, cry with.
Not knowing if you are even a religious type person please excuse me if my suggestion was off base.

I do know , somewhere , there exists support for you. Hugs.
I don't even know which kind of church I should go to since the faith I was raised in, I do not like.

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my son making me feel numb.I hope you have a church to be there for you. When I lost my son, I gained a church. I found a wonderful support group and even though I cried a lot I felt better at church knowing my son is in heaven. I've been reading a lot about mediums and the message they bring to us that our loved ones are still around in spirit. When you're ready, read some books on spirituality. I think it will lift you up.

I am so very sorry for the passing of your dear Kyla. My son, Ed, passed away in 2009 from a heart attack. He was my only child. You are in the early stages of grief; at its most excruciating. I can tell you the pain does lighten over time and at some point you will be able to breathe again. Please, when you are able, tell us about your sweet Kyla. I found it helped to share who Ed was (and is). Try to rest when you can, eat a little when you are able and stay hydrated. Tight, tight hugs, Linda, Ed's mom

I lost my 16 year old daughter on December 15th of last year. I understand what you mean. It is so difficult to contend with. Everything feels so raw right now. If you ever want to message me, feel free to do so. Life will be more difficult now. I have cried so many tears I probably have a good start to a new great lake. Wishing you all of the best.

Janet