I'm so very sorry for your losses Sweetie. Each one is so difficult, isn't it? The way I've dealt are keeping a grief journal, reading inspirational books, including The Bible, and staying busy (maybe getting involved in a craft project). I'm making a memory pillow out of my dad's shirts and making shadowboxes with his things. These things may\may not work for you. God bless. Ill keep you in my prayers.

I'm sorry for your loss too I know I have to get through this grief it's hard tho I cry and get mad and have guilt I try to be ok I know my life is never going to be the same it's changed forever now I have to accept this new life hugs to you too

We all grieve differently, and that is OK

I found that the idea of looking for a new normal gave me comfort. I can't just go out and get replacement parents (I'm mid 60s, and have lost both parents and my only sibling), but I can let other people take some of those roles in my life.

And I can be to others what my parents and sister were to me. OK, not exactly, but you get the idea.

Gentle hugs

I think one of the hardest aspects of losing someone is accepting the loss of potential for their life and the loss of plans we had made with them. SimpsonsOK is definitely on the right track. We all have to find what our new normal is going to be. In my case, I lost my beloved daughter in a car accident July 22, 2017. She had just graduated from college and was raising her 2 year old son on her own. I am now in the process of adopting him as his father does not have the resources of willingness to be a part of his life. Then on December 30, 2017, my beloved husband, who had been in poor health many years, passed away. My husband came home from our daughter's service and literally got in bed and grieved for her until he passed away. I have gotten through this by my faith that there is more than life and death on this earth. My readings have strengthened my faith and I know it will be a glorious day when we are all reunited in heaven. Until then, know that your sister and boyfriend have never completely left you and are always with you in your soul and heart, if not in a physical body. I have come to accept that at 64 my life will include raising a toddler (I am blessed to have a good support group network of family members). Will there ever come a day that I don't wish I could see my daughter and husband? Of course not, but instead of seeing a cute dress my daughter would like and break into tears, I can see it and say to myself how cute she would look in it. The concept that time heals is true only to an extent. We will never be whole again but we will be able to have less time to mourn and more time to be involved in the job of making new lives for ourselves and learning to enjoy the small things that make us happy - seeing a beautiful butterfly, listening to the birds sing, what a baby's giggle sounds like. Lastly, no matter what the circumstances were surrounding your loss, be easy on yourself. You are entitled to feel whatever you need to feel and cry when you need to for as long as you need to grieve. No one else is entitled to tell you it's been long enough and to snap out of it and get on with your life.

I'm sorry for your losses as well Karen thank you for your words

Karenindesoto I am so sorry for your losses. Reading your post was very powerful. I am in awe of your strength.