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LOSS OF MY MOTHER.

mcknight40
mcknight40
Hi My name is Sonya McKnight and I lost my mum in Jan 2012.

I know in my heart my mum is gone but I cannot come to terms or get my head around that the woman who brought me into this world is not here anymore and that makes me sad everyday.

I keep going for my kids sake but when I am out and about my mask goes on is this the right thing to do pretend that I am ok when I am not. It is a struggle and it is painful for me my mum is not here.

Any advice would be very much appreciated.

Thanks Sonya McKnight.
Tosoonmom
Tosoonmom
I read your profile and it says you have 3 kids...so do I and being strong for them is what everyone tells me I have to be. But what about me? When do I get yo be ok? You sound like you feel the same way I do and my mom passed 2 weeks ago only. Have you gone to any counselling?
koolman
koolman
It may not seem like it now, but your mum is IN YOU, helping YOU be a good mum to YOUR kids!

Watching old videos of your mum, if you have some, I think would help. It sure helps me to watch old videos of my departed brother. I remember him in all his facets and find myself emulating him. It'll help you absorb your mother's spirit and incorporate all the good things you loved about her into your own thoughts, attitudes, beliefs and behavior.
OpheliaRising
OpheliaRising
I lost my dad almost a year ago and I am having the same problem. It just isn't something you can "get over". I find some comfort in writing in a scrapbook journal. I tend to write about memories or just letters to him.

I know there are some great books out there on bereavement particularly on losing a parent that may help to add perspective. There are several very high rated titles on Amazon.com that might be able to help you. You may want to check them out.

In the mean time do be gentle with yourself! *hugs*