My sister, I understand your pain all too well
I know what it is to have such great emptiness in your soul
I agree with you,its alright to talk,as well as cry,This is called healing
If you hold it in,it will only hurt just as bad for a longer time
One doesn't "get over" such pain,only healing,and time Help some
No one should tell you not to cry,its like saying "be quiet"

Do what you feel you need to do,and i promise you,You will heal
Loss is never "replaced" or forgotten,yet we do have to go On
Come talk with me if you wish,i will try to be a good listener>>

I am so sorry for your loss! No parent should ever have to lose a child! I have no advice, but I am a good listener anytime you need to talk about it and get it out. {{{hugs}}}

thanks to the both of you...you have no idea how much that means to me...its just hard to talk to people who dont know what you're going through or how you feel...all they can say is i'm sorry or it'll get better...i know it gets easier with time (as it has with me) but i still miss her and still need to talk about it at times.

BLESS YOUR HEART I HATE WHEN PEOPLE SAY THINGS LIKE THAT- NO ONE KNOWS WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH UNLESS THEY LOST A CHILD. TAKE CARE

Thank you Lynne112657

im so sorry for the loss of your baby girl. We lost our baby boy at 5 days old and it has been very hard to keep going. Best advice i have is remember your baby and talk talk talk if you have too. Crying is good and if your husband cant stand to here it. I go to the cemetary and sit and talk and cry to my son. My husband acted the same way. Tell him your still hurting and you need this theres no right way to grieve or time period. I think he should understand, remember he is grieving too. There are a lot of great women here that will listen. I know it hurts and will hurt a long time. The pain will start easing but its going to take time and lot of it. Im here if you just want to talk. If you havent you should join the sids support group even if it wasnt sids. They understand. Sending lotts of huggs and prayers your way.

Sorry for the loss of your beloved daughter.....we lost our oldest son in 2005, and today i was cleaning out my bedroom and came upon some of his stuff and pictures. That day he left this earth came rushing back all over again. I will keep you in my thoughts and just do what helps you to cope regardless.

I do totally understand. I lost my daughter in feb 07 suddenly and I still feel lost and sad daily. I have come to accept it but thats about it. I lost my bestfriend of 35 years just a coulpe of months ago to and I keep hearing the same thing about both of them to get over it and move on. That makes me angry and I quickly let people know it. A big part of me died with my daughter and I am never gonna get over it so I just deal day by day. I have found some comfort in god and I do have other kids and grandkids but they understand that I will never be the same and they seem to accept that. You have to do what makes you feel right. and always know god says we will reunite one day. Thats what I look forward to but I have to be right in order for that to happen. No one understands unless they have experienced a loss of a child and don't hesitate to let them know that. I try really hard to stay away from the negative and I have found it helps me from becoming angry all the time. I still have my moments and so will you but know you are not alone. I will keep you in my prayers and there is nothing wrong with keeping our children alive within ourselves and to hell with those who dont understand it. Big hugs to you.

I am hoping you find some warmth in ppl's replies everyone here wishes u love & comfort.
My son David was stillborn had he lived he would be 20 yrs old in July'12.I have found that seeking out support of other bereaved parents nessesary,in helping me come to terms with David's passing.Lots of tears & anger & talking about my unanswered questions.Just a lil of my experience.HUGS!

i really understand i do not know how you feel i can only imagen .my heart gose out to you hon. try some community work it migth help .
i think your family is concerned for somtimes people who try to help make it worse, it okay to feel the way you do big gental hug minnie

From a man's point of view your husband is trying to fix you; trying to remove the very thing that makes you cry.
Most men don't understand that delaying your grief or running away from your pain is a bad thing.
Crying is natural and there should be no shame in any of it. The bible has many examples of crying; even Jesus wept for Lazareth. Is Jesus not the example we are to follow??
I would explain to your family that crying is healing and good for the soul. It helps process your grief and allows you to cope / function better.
I speak from my own experience of losing my 9 year old daughter. She would be 16 now; hard to believe.
You can visit her website at: http://myangeljenae.com
I hope and pray you and your family will help each other to heal in the best possible way.

My dear, I understand your loss only too well. You see I lost my baby Michael just six months ago. I am still grieving and wishing that I could hold him in my arms. It is ok to cry and miss your baby... no one can take that away... If your husband cannot talk about it, talk to all of us here ... I am here for you though I am still healing and finding my way..