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losing my dad to suicide

maccy
maccy
My step dad died 10/04/07 of a overdose.He had to stokes and lost his leg when he was in the army.He never left a note or anything i knew he was depressed when he asked me how to be sectioned.I miss him so much but cant bring myself to grieve iam finding it so hard to get upset i mean or course i cry but thats it lasts 2 seconds please help

michael xxx
deleted_user
deleted_user
My first thought is to wonder what emotion you Are feeling - I mean, do you find peace with the relief he found from the pain?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Don't feel as though you need to be wailing endlessly. On the other hand, you may find yourself starting to grieve more in a journaling process. Jot down memories of your dad, recall and write about your feelings at various times of his illness.
starfish
starfish
Do you mean, 10/4/06?
I am so sorry for your losing your dad, especially that way.

I lost my oldest son the same way. And for some of the same reasons. He served two years in the Navy, and didn't cope with it very well. I am sure the way he was treated, and the way he was discharged, made his condition much worse. He also had a permanent and painful injury to his right heel, and he did not deal with pain very well. He did not leave a note, either the night he died.
Journaling can be a very good way to connect with some of your feelings. Also, talking with an understanding friend or family member, or going to a greif support group (where you would be allowed to cry all you need to) or one- on one with a therapist.

You may even be able to get some release by talking to us here. You are welcome to share and talk any time. If you want more private conversation, you can message someone to talk to, also.
BeckyK
BeckyK
I am so sorry you lost your Dad that way! I lost my Mother to suicide and 9 years later still don't think I have fully dealth with it, but I am trying. I shared my story in my June 25th journal if you want to read it.