Welcome Shon..... I am so very sorry for your loss.... I have lost my birth family but I don't have children so I can't imagine the pain of it

Someone very close to me lost her daughter a little over a year ago and joined a bereavement group in RL for parents who have lost children....

Your whole family could really benefit by grief counseling...Being with people who truly understand what you're going through can make a difference..... You help one another through the painful journey of grief....

DS is a great site.... I'm glad you're here.... Gentle hug and a blessing....xo

Good morning SunCloudJD,
Thank you for your words of compassion. Yes, we a grief counseling support group here in Florida called Compassionate Friends. I am going to look into it soon. I do appreciate your kind words and look forward to talking to you from time to time.

I am sorry you are now on this journey. I also lost a son, he was 28 and was to be a father of a son. I have been on this path for 8 years now, the ups and downs are like a roller coaster that makes you sick to your tummy. I belong to a group FOR MOMS ONLY we all have lost a child(ren) Without the support of these ladies I do not know where I would be. We hold each other up. I understand your pain, and you are not alone.
Sending hugs
Penny

I am sorry for your loss. There is a group on here if you have not found it called For Moms Only..It is a great group for mom's who have lost a child. I lost my son in 09. The mom's in this group have been my lifesaver's....Losing a child is the worst or the worst....I just lost my mom Mar 6 and am trying to deal with that right now too...but losing s child...I hope you found our group. I see Penny in the above reply also told you about it...Its in this same site. Sending you love..Sandi

I appreciate your words of encouragement and empathy! There is not a day that goes by that my heart doesn't ache for my child. It is the worst, words could never and will never be able to express just how sadden my days and nights are without my son. My only solitude is my faith and the support that I receive from loved ones and now from individuals such as yourself on this site. Peace and love!!!!!

Hi Shon,

I cannot express to you how sorry I am for the loss of your son. Your words pained me right through to the core.

Losing one's own child is probably the most emotionally painful thing a person can experience. It's a really cruel and unfortunate act of nature - one that almost seems unnatural.

I think you deserve a massive applaud for maintaining strength and structure in your family during this very difficult and emotional time. That being said, you deserve to address the way you feel and just, well, grieve. I'm glad you're taking time off - you need it!

I once watched a video of a mother who had lost her son, and I remember her saying "You never get over the death of your child - you just learn to find a new normal". I took note of what she said because I thought her words were quite powerful. Your and your family's lives will always be altered by this loss, but you will in time learn to adapt to this new reality as a family.

I think the good thing about having other children is that a presence can be felt through the other children, and hopefully that can provide even the teeniest bit of comfort from time to time.

It seems that your family are a strong unit and will support each other through this difficult time. I hope that you can come together to suppprt and heal one another, and eventually find a 'new normal'.

During this time, I'd urge you and your family to utilise charities and organisations that deal with grief and bereavement. There are a lot of them and they can be very helpful!

Sending you all the love and light that I have to give. You are an outstanding mother and I truly admire your strength, resilience and integrity during this time.

A 23 year old woman has you and your family in her thoughts

Xxx

Glisteningmoon,
I found your post to be both uplifting and powerful! Your words of comfort, strength and love was needed and accepted with love! Thank you for all of the kind words regarding my resilience and strength. I must give credit to my loving and supporting family unit; we are each other's keepers. I have not sought out any groups or bereavement organizations, but I do have one in mind; Compassionate Friends has a local chapter here in Jacksonville and I will look into sitting in on a meeting one day soon whenever my spirit leads me that way.
Thank you again for your words of encouragement and compassion!

I lost my brother 7 years ago. My mom of course then lost her son age 21. I was told by a family member to be strong for my parents and that was actually awful advice. I then didn't grieve so while I know you want to take care of your children which is important, don't forget to let yourself grieve and take time for yourself. Thoughts and prayers are with you.

I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my husband oct 2016 but I have watched his mom suffer so and I can't imagine losing one of my sons. I have cried for your loss. Talk to me anytime.

Thank you for your words of compassion and most of all for your prayers!!! Love and peace to you!!!

Hi Shon, I am so sorry for the loss of your son. No parent should never have to deal with losing a child. I'm so very sorry that you and your family have to deal with the loss. I know it must be very hard to grieve for your son. Try to take it one day at a time. Whenever you have to cry try not to hold it in and try to talk to your family and friends about your grief. I know from my own experiences that keeping it in doesn't help thats why I come here and least by writing down how I feel it then helps me a little bit afterwards and then when I receive comments then it helps evenmore because someone read what I wrote and cares enough to write me back and understands some of what I'm going through. I know losing a child is much more worse than losing a parent but i have an idea of what you are going through and again I'm so sorry that you have to go through it. It must be hell and a nightmare that you can't wake up from. Just know that you can come here day or night and write your feelings and someone will write back. My prayers and hugs go out to you and your family. Please try to hang in there and stay strong.

Hello Shon,
I lost my 18yr old son in October of 2016. I seriously feel your pain. It has been the worst emotional rollercoaster that I have ever been on. Not a day goes by that he is not on my mind. I am still waiting for him to walk through the door. Mother's day was extremely hard as well. I have a 16yr old son that is struggling with his death as well. He watched his brother pass away. I can't even imagine what he is going through, as he won't talk to me. So, as you can see, I'm not even sure I'm dealing with his death the way I should be. You seem to be very strong. And I'm so sorry for your loss. Nothing compares to losing a child.