I don't think I can help you, I only lost my dad 7 weeks ago yesterday, although he was old and ill it was still kind of unexpected, we live in maine and he was visiting in florida and died down there. He was obviously well enough to travel so we thought he'd be ok, I lost my mom when I was only 8 and have only known my dad. He lived with us for the past 8 months before his passing and all I can say to you is sorry for your loss, because really there are no words that could ever make you feel any better. For me, right now, life really sucks and I can't put it any other way, I miss him every single minute of every single day. He wasn't just my dad, but my hero and my best friend and the kindest gentless caring giving man, and I forgot to say strongest, I've ever known. People keep telling me it gets more managable, not easier but more managable, At the moment I don't see the light at the end of the tunnel. I miss him so much that I can't even put it into words, it feels like my right arm is missing or something and I cry every single day and not for him because I know he's got to be in a much better place than here (earth), but for me and not that I have regrets or guilt but just because I simply miss him. Good luck to you on your jouney and if you want to add me so we can chat sometime by all means I'd be happy to chat with you.

Hello to both of you. I lost my father almost three years ago (in September it will be three years) in an accident. I am going through a resurgence of my own grief right now, because it's fathers day . . . But, I wanted to pass on something my therapist tells me to do. She tells me to visit with my grief whole-heartedly. When it comes knocking on the door, let it in and allow yourself to grieve. Once you are in a better place, open the door and see it out. Do not allow it to stay with you; just allow it to be a visitor in your life. This has worked well for me and I am no longer so overwhelmed with the grief. Since my dad died, I have tried to live my life in a way that would make him proud and that honors him at the same time. I would suggest continuing your therapy or finding a new therapist, one that feels like a comfy pair of shoes, not an obligation. Since I have been trying the "visiting" with the grief, I am able to stop obsessing and think clearer. I do hope this helps. Just remember (both of you) that everyone grieves differently and this journey is forever. The pain doesn't go away, but it does ease with time. My office at work is filled with all of my Dad memorabilia - that way I can visit him and see him everyday . . .

i know this does not sound logically right but for me i stayed with my mother in the house after everyone left after the funeral and i grieved along with her together the only thought i had at the time is that we both needed to heal together so all i did was sit with her silently and every now and then she would say just a few words at a time. it has now been a year and we are healing faster than i expected love can heal our wounds even when those who we love have since passed.
my father was the rock of the family this i know when he died the rock was removed and the little rocks had no where to go and no place to get gather themselves. but we are left with many lessons in which to gather our courage and regain our faith in love that is the lessons our fathers leave us and by which we move forward still wanting to prove ourselves to them that what they taught us will go on living in us and hopefully we will show our children what lessons they may need when they cross this path that we are now in.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AHZCAcSh7ls

I listen to this song ALOT!! It seems to bring me a little bit of peice...I hope you enjoy it as much as I do, it's not about crying for them cuz we know they are in a much better place, it's about crying for us, that are stuck here without them

First I would like to tell Daddysgirl I am very sorry to hear you lost your Dad while he was so for away. I hope your journey through the grieving process. It is also great to see you found this site so soon after his passing.
Thank you all for your support and encouragement. I have seen a therapist and it helped some, but it also seemed to make things harder to deal with when I would have to work that night or the next day. I know God took my Dad home to be with him and I understand this. I have alot of this to remind me of him everyday. It is getting easier each day, but there are so many hard days to get through and I hope being able to talk to other going through this as well will help me more.

Thank you all.

Shrek,

Listen to the song I posted...It makes total sense, It somedays makes me feel better and sometimes it makes me feel worse but I have to listen to it atleast once a day :) Good luck with your journey through the darkness and I know there IS light, even if I don't see it now. We'll have good days and bad days and some just so so days but we're all here for the same thing!! Good luck

I'm really sorry to hear about everyone's loss. It's really tough and difficult. As I am just starting this road I have no advice to give. Just the simple statement, I understand what you're experiencing and I hope it gets better for you.