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alicea
alicea
I lost my husband of 35 yrs. in July. We had been together since we were 15 yrs. old, married out of high school. I have never been alone, we have gone thru each phase of our lives together. I really do not know how to go on alone. We worked together in a business which has been dissolved so its not like I am out with people every day. I cannot look for work right now because I just have days with no energy, crying all day. Any advice??
deleted_user
deleted_user
Give yourself some time to heal. Now is the time for you to be good to yourself. Avoid conflicts and additional stress. When your ready you will know.

Maybe you can take a part-time job or better yet,volunteer. The idea is to distract your thoughts without adding stress.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You are in my prayers. Be gentle with yourself. There is no right or wrong way to handle these situations. Take life one day at a time and cherrish the moments that you had together. Try to enjoy the holidays.... Again, you are in my prayers :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
I lost my husband 3 years ago and we were together since age 15 too. I would like to say it gets easier,but for me it has not. The only thing keeping me alive is our children who are ages 9 and 8. I have not moved on and don't know how. I am still in counceling and it is working at times and not at others. Everyone says give it time, well I have been waiting for years and no magic yet..
Good luck to you. Be with people who love you and it is ok to cry, I still do it all the time.
deleted_user
deleted_user
My condolences for the loss of your husband. I've lived with my Mom all my life and was her caregiver past five years, as well. In September, that job ended.

I decided to wait until after the holidays before looking for work, which has turned out to be a good decision, as I had really bad days.

Take it slowly, use your judgement based on finances and your emotions. I'm going to start by temping (hopefully) and the idea offered to you of part-timing is good also.