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Tinsley87
Tinsley87

Hi I am new to the whole idea of posting on public forums especially ones so sensitive, but I need some outlet. I have lost my mom, dad and both sisters to cancer when I was aged 8, 16, 18 and I just lost my sister and best friend last year 3 days before my 30th birthday. I took care of her and was holding her hand when she passed. I also held my mom's hand as she passed. I have watched all of the most important people in my life that i desperately needed and need slip away one by one. The love, support, and bond my sister and I shared is irreplaceable and I am feeling the overwhelming emotions of how alone I feel now without her. It hurts physically. I have two babies 2 and 7 months and I can't seem to get along with my husband which puts me in an even darker lonelier place.I am exhausted, depressed, and overall at a loss for how my life will continue without my family here. Having children without their love and support is proving to be way more than I feel I can handle but I need to find a way because I have to be here for my children. 

autumn1g
autumn1g
Hi. I just joined this site tonight myself. I can't imagine the loss you have had to face in your life. I felt I had to reach out because your post touched me. My father is terminally ill and I am having to face the reality of losing him. He is in a nursing home and I am there almost every day with him. Home hasn't been a place for comfort for me either. My wife and I are having a very rough time in our marriage and we are looking to seek counseling. My mother is alive but has distanced herself from me recently because I've been caring for my father and she is resentful of that. (lots of history there) Please feel free to share more if you'd like. I know how hard it is telling others in real life what you're going through. I feel like I'm such a Debbie Downer to people sometimes. I hate that. But when nothing seems to be going well, sometimes its all you can say.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Welcome and a big hug for you Tinsley and for you as well autumn

You have had a lot of loss at such a young age..... I am so sorry you've gone through so much Tinsley

Grief is so painful and one of the stages of grief is anger.... A real life support group may be a great help for you to work through your pain

Unfortunately autumn there is often problems within families (there was mine) when you're going through this.... We need to come together but we're so raw that we can push one another away

There is also a Caring for Aging Parents group on here

Big hugs for both of you and a blessing....xo
Tinsley87
Tinsley87
Thank you for the replies Autumn and Suncloud. It is so nice to get validation that what I have gone through is alot and that others can relate. I am sorry you are not getting support from you mother Autumn. Its equally hard in a different way when those in our family who are still alive let us down. Sending strength and positive vibes.
top4874
top4874
Cancer is such a cruel disease. I lost my wife of 21 years on February 19th and I know all to well how overwhelming the grief can be. Just know that you are not alone. There are many here that share your pain and we are here for one another.

We are often too hard on ourselves when dealing with such a heavy burden, Difficulties in our family life often make it worse. The one piece of advice I can give you is to forgive those that do not deserve forgiveness. Not for them, but for yourself. It will save your sanity.

Be kind to yourself. Hug your babies long and often. Give them extra kisses. Embarrass them with your love. They will thank you for it later.
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