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duane 08/05/2008

My parent, DH and I were invited to a dinner party yesterday by one of parents closest friends. They were the ones who have helped my parents out since my brother passed away. They have been so generous and caring for us. Yesterday I watched their children and grandchildren laugh, play and enjoy each others company that I actually felt jealous, angery and sad all at the same time. I am so jealous taht they are healthy and there...I am angery for feeling jealous because I would never wish the tragedy that we went through on anyone else... and I so sad that we lost my brother and child and that I may never give my parents grandchildren and that they will always be living vicarously through their friends in order to feel like grandparents. It was so beautiful to watch my mother play with their down syndrome grandchild...the love that came out of here was overwhelming. Does anyone have advice on how I cna over come these emotions?

deleted_user 08/05/2008

These emotions are unfortunately a part of grief. Time is about the only thing that might help, but watching the joy the children bring to you mom, might too, one day. Huggs, Rainbow

deleted_user 08/05/2008

Rainbow is right, those feelings are very much a part of grieving. But when you feel that anger and jealousy creeping up on you, try to remember this: No one's life here on earth is perfect. Everyone has their own pain, their own grief, their own burden to bear, and Thank God, we don't all have it at the same time, or there would be no one to function and carry on the "ordinary business of living". Someone whose life seems so perfect may not have come to their rough parts of the road just yet, but everyone has them.

When I think of that, then I can feel a little gladness in my heart for the "pain-free" day or week or time that the person /people I'm jealous of are enjoying at the moment. And I confess, I also feel a little sorry for myself as I think that I wanted so many more days like that, but it does remind me that I mustn't begrudge others their happy times.

duane 08/05/2008

You are both right. Life is not going to be picture perfect and I really do not know what is going on with other people...however I still wish that some happiness would come our way. I do count my blessings every day and I am so grateful to God for my parents, DH, uncle and grandmothers.

deleted_user 08/05/2008

i can't give you advice but want you to know your not alone in your feelings......i watch my friends with their infants and feel so jealous that we don't have our Siena May any more and i get so angry when they take them for granted.................

deleted_user 08/05/2008

I feel the same way. I hate everyone I see with twins, and every where I look celeb's are having twins, my neighbors are expecting twins, at the mall, everywhere. No I don't wish this pain on anyone else but I am still very angry for losing Kyle. Everyone says to me you still have Karly which is true and I love her with all my heart but what people don't understand is that she is only 1/2 of a pair. It is very hard to celebrate her milestones because there were supposed to be two children reaching milestones. How am I supposed to celebrate her 2nd b-day in Oct??? Sorry for going on but you hit the nail on the head for me. I hate everyone and feel so guilty for doing so!

koolman 08/05/2008

You can overcome these emotions by sharing in their happy emotions.

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