I had to write this column because it is very dear to me.It seems today that noone wants anyone to mourn.They confuse mourning with weakness and this is simply isnt true.Mourning is good for the mental health,but the old Italians like my late grandmother went overboard.In my Italian family,a relative mourned someone for 50 years! All I know that this was done at the turn of the century.But 50 years and whoever it was,she never got it and she eventually died at 61.I cannot do this.I canot give up on life because since 1955 until now I have lost 14 people.Some has moved away.Some has died of natural causes.But when it comes to my older brother..when I went home for my mothers funeral..I knew just how sick that he was.I was expecting the both of them to go on the same day.Frank and mom stayed at the same nursing home.Their rooms were next to each other.Frank was the one who found my mother and when I came home..he took me aside and said"Be prepared,sissy.I am not going to make it this time.I am next." Then we both cried at the funeral home and I said nothing.Frank and I had our differences.We all do when it comes to brothers and sisters.So how can Frank be dead?And noone has really sat down and spoke to me about this.Things have been a little rough for me..but I am going to announce this to everybody.I am going to shout it out..HARD TIMES FOR ME ARE OVER!Now it is up to me to do the things that my parents and Frank never could.People ask me if I am in mourning.You see,I have been wearing black a lot.I have worn black on and off since the death of my sainted father.Yes and no.I made a shrine it is next to my bed.I have a little picture of Frank,when he turned 21.He was just so happy then.And this is to all of you well meaning people..if a person wants to keep a room the way that the deceased person left it..it is their right.And you simply dont have the right to go in a room and start throwing the clothes.Just who do you think you are? If you ever threw out Franks clothes,you would be thrown out of my house and you will never be asked back! Dont say this is for a persons good.Are you a parent? What gives anyone the right to assume this role? I dont need an idiot like Dr.Phil in my life! Isnt it bad enough that some of these tv people give advice when they do not know the situation and it becomes worse! And for all of you..please remember this..sometimes people do need medication and it is up to anyone to go to a trained professional to get it.Dont assume that because you heard of him on line that they will be able to help.ALways consult a professional.Never listen to anyone but.Last year at the Fred Hutchinson Cancer Hospital there was a 17 year old boy admitted.He was really sick and noone knew why.He was taking 17 multivitamins a day and not going to chemo all because of someone on tv.The doctors had to tell the parents that he wasnt getting well and the parents had to discontinue vitamins.Look,there are people who are selling these miracle vitamins online and on tv.Some of them are not real.The people that they get on these infomericals are actresses.When a product promises something and if it sounds too good to be true..it isnt.Dont be scammed! And all of the scientists at the University of Washington after a 5 year study of vitamins concluded that if you eat a well balanced diet and exercise and such..you do not need vitamins.Some can harm you,like Vitamin C.And Vitamin E does not help the heart.So let me tell you...be careful and do not believe some people who claim to have all of the answers.Vader.
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