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Is this weird?

lilduckie
lilduckie
I just lost my dad last wed. March 12th. I haven't cried yet but I do miss him lots. I am still shocked he is gone. My partner and I would go once to twice a week to take care of him. He had a stroke over a year and three months ago. He was paralyzed on the right side and could not talk. He was happy most of the time. He went to the doctor last tues and the doctor said he was in good health overall. He died wed night at home in bed. He just took a deep breath and passed. Im happy he is at peace but miss him lots. I don't know what do with myself. I haven't even cried. Is that weird? I kinda feel weird I haven't cried. I do love him very much.

RIP Dad!
OpheliaRising
OpheliaRising
I am so sorry about your loss.

My dad too had a stroke, was paralyzed on the right side and could hardly talk. Firstly seeing your parent go through that is hard and when they finally pass there are so many mixed feelings- it's for the best but you still wish they were here kind of thing.

For me, I didn't cry for months after my dad passed. It's not because I didn't love him it is because I was numb. Now I am experience the grief full force.

Understand that there is no proper way to grieve. You will do it on your time and on your terms. You will go through an array of emotions or none at all. Be gentle with yourself but remember you still have to live your life.

I wish you so much comfort in this hard time.

Take care.
lilduckie
lilduckie
It is defiantly weird when they have their stroke and the doc prepare us that dad was going to die. We brought him home on hospice. Then he lived longer that a week and eventually he was take off hospice and put into home care. He lived a year, three months and one day longer than the docs said. I do miss him and his barrel tummy deep laughs. Going to the house and seeing him peak his head around the corner. Thank you for your advice. It helps me to know that I am not too weird for not crying yet. smiles. HUGS.
deleted_user
deleted_user
when my mom was diagonised with cancer I took care of her at home for 9 months till the day she took her last breath, I didn't cry. I think that 9 months was a slow grieving process in itself. I also think I didn't cry because I knew she was finally at peace, no more pain, I knew my mom well and knew she didn't like just laying there unable to do anything, not even smile....so yes no crying is ok, bless you and prayers
barbarame
barbarame
We often experience a numbness at first. I believe it is natures way of cushioning the shock. There are no rules to grieving so you are not "wrong" My partner never mourned the death of her mother. We discussed it and decided that since she had reached such an advanced age, it was all so natural for her to pass on, and to leave suffering behind her. She was always loved and cherished. That therefore was all good. She rests in peace, and now she is reunited with the whole family.