There is a group of people that are living now that I am extremely worried about.They are nice people yet noone has written or talked about their problem which will become more and more apparent since the entire population is aging.I am talking about us women who were caretakers for our elderly parents and now our parents are gone....if we are not married...who is going to take care of us? I have pondedered this problem since the death of my mother.I took care of my mother from 1989 until 1998 and all I got was verbal abuse and being called a piece of ..........................That was the last straw.I decided at 47 to leave.i had a good life until my father died.It was a happy house.But then my dad died in 1987 and my mother became a problem drinker.And it was a problem because she would follow me all around the house and was always in my business.She would come to the store where i worked and this was bad for me because I had to have lunch with her.When my father was living...she couldnt give a damn everything was my brothers and she
emotionally abandoned me at 8 and left me to solve all of my problems on my own.My mother loved the boy children in the family and made no bones about it.She was always at some game and comparing me to them and this is one of the reasons when she had her stroke..I told social security that under no circumstances will she live with me because I had with here and people tell me that I had no right.Excuse me! Who are these parents to favor one child?Who are they? When will they learn that boy children are different and 95% of all these cases...the girl is made to be care giver.Why? If she loved the boys that much...let them do it.Or wise..put them in assisted living or a nursing home and this will not cause stress.Just because shes your mother doesnt mean that you have to be strapped with problems like i had.My mother was in a nursing home and it was by her own doing.She was told to stop her drinking because in 1995,1996 and 1997 she was in the hospital 3 times for drinking.She was giving the nurses a hard time and they couldnt wait until she went home.Noone has the right to be screamed at or verbally abused and I got tired of this immature behaviour.Noone yells at me.Noone.I do not take this from anybody and if you are a busybody...do me a favor leave me alone.i like being alone now and i have got my own life now and it took me several years but it is my own life and there will be noone to look after me incase I get really sick..so why should i get married or have a roommate because of it? I am sorry....being alone is one of the greatest gift that my late father gave me.There is a life after caretaking.I refuse to do it again.