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It was 4 years on August 1st,2008 that I lost my brother.Frank told me a long time ago to leave Brad and take that job in Vegas and I wished that I did listen to him.But recently Brad got very ill and I almost lost him.For If I went to Vegas,I would have found him not so good.Do not tell me that opposites attract.This simply is not true.Some people do not like a great deal of things and he is one of them.He does not like any of the food that I do and vice versa.And Frank saw this.His last words were this"Sissy..please do not suffer anymore.He is more trouble then he is worth and he is not worth it".Those were his last words and then in two weeks he was dead and I still dont know what to do with myself on Tuesday because Frank would call me and discuss The Yankees.When I am alone all by myself..I try to do two things.The first thing that I do is write down a few ideas on what I am going to say in a discussion and then I think about it all day.I write down various sentences and then I write it out on a yellow pad.But the next thing that I do..I cry and cry over Frank and I still think of him everyday.She told me to get over it and that was the last time that I will ever speak to her.When people say this..it shows just one thing..they are only for themselves and they love and worship money.And if you do not have this money..well it is tought for you.But Frank was just so right and I do feel a little down..But today is the 1st day of The Convention.And I will watch it with pride and smile.So if you want to cry..go head!Dont let anyone say that you cant! And what do these people who say this know! I would say to them..this..I would tell them to mind their own busiess because they are not in my situation and if they were..maybe they would see things a little different..but otherwise like the late Morton Downy Jr. Would say to his ornery guests.ZIP IT!
I lost my oldest son almost 1 year ago - he died of suicide. I love him and miss him too. My heart broke again when he died.
Every day I think of my sons - usually many times a day. They are still a big part of my life - I am the one who has to learn to cope with this life on earth without them. And it doesn't matter how I do this - whatever I do is ok for me. The same applies with everyone - you do what you have to do and that is ok. Unfortunately, it is people not having a clue about death and grief, that say the wrong things. Only those who have suffered a similar loss can empathize with you and give you comfort.
So, you do whatever it takes to get you by day to day. Eventually, as time passes, you will learn how to cope with your loss and though you will think of him every day still, you won't be as overwhelmed as you are now. You learn to put your grief in a safe place and you go there when you need to.
I have a long way to go with my oldest son's death - only now there are holes entering into the numbness and I am overwhelmed with grief. But I know, unfortunately from experience, that I will get to that place with him also.
I will never forget them - why would I want to? They are my sons forever - their death doesn't change that. always, Shirley