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missy12358104 03/20/2009

If you could have one more day with the loved ones you lost how would you spend it? What would you say to them? What would you do? And at the end of that day how would you say goodbye?

For me I would do all of the things I enjoyed with my grandparents. I would listen to my grandfather tell jokes and make me laugh. I would take my grandmother to rummage sales which she loved to do. And with my other grandfather I would play games with him and help him count his change like I used to do when I was a child. With my greatgrandmother and greatgrandfather i would make dumplings and sticky chicken. I would spend every minute with them doing things we all love. And at the end of that day I would tell them how much I love them, give them all a hug and a kiss, I would then tell them how much I love them and then tell them that I will miss them every day until that day comes that I will see them again and be able to be with them forever. And then finally I will tell them goodbye and that I will see them again one day.

deleted_user 03/20/2009

:( i dont even know how i would spend it, probably first by giving him the biggest longest hug imaginable, never wanting to let go. then i would tell him how incredibly sorry i was that i failed him as a big brother, how i never meant to hurt him. then in return i would let him choose whatever he wants to do, how he would have wanted to spend his last day.. saying goodbye would be devastating and i dont even know how i would be able to do it. i guess since i never got to say goodbye the first time, i would try to make it as good as possible and let him know that i will always consider him my brother and best friend, and that time would never change that, or lessen the love i have for him. i love you so much dylan :(

ablueflower 03/20/2009

I would go for a walk by the sea with my mom. We would talk and breathe fresh sea air, listen to waves and enjoy nature and sun. I would enjoy every moment with her, I would look at her face very carefully to remember every detail and to have that picture of her relaxed and smiled in my mind forever. I would tell her how much I love her and how much I'll miss her. I would tell her that I'm sorry if things didn't turn out the way she wanted and that I wanted the best for her.

I would tell her that I will be ok and that she doesn't have to worry about me. And I would want to hear from her that everything will be ok. And I know she would tell me that. I would hug her tightly wishing never to let go. And I would never say goodbye. I would rather say: See you, mom.

deleted_user 03/20/2009

This answer will be a difficult one for me. I would spend it once more, hand-in-hand walking along the river that runs through a city near me. I would spend it with her, telling her everything she already knew, and then laughing at myself and feeling stupid that i repeated myself. We would sit in a photo booth together and take silly pictures of us posing. I would tell her all the wonderful progress i've made since she died. Then at the end, we would be sitting on a golden beach. The wind could be a nice gentle breeze on her skin and softly blow her black hair. The water would lightly touch our feet with every wave with me sitting close to her. I would smile and enjoy the moment just that way. Then when the sun goes down over the water, i would share one kiss with her. Just for once, so i could feel would it would be like to have kissed her lips, then watch her fade away into the afterlife again. I would be content that way. It would be heaven all over again, but i shudder to think of the pain of loss destroying me.

deleted_user 03/20/2009

When Yolanda was first killed, I felt so guilty that I never even said goodnight, or anything much for that matter the day it happened. I would tell her how proud I am of her. I would tell her what a great mom she is. I would tell her I would gladly go in her place to leave her here to care for Megan.

deleted_user 03/20/2009

I would hold my son, cuddle with him, kiss him, smell him, love on him all day... I would tell him how much his mommy loves him and tell him how sorry I was that I couldn't save him, how I would do anything in the world for him. I would hold him close to me and would memorize every one of his features. I would take a 1000 more pictures and videos of him. I would feed him as much as he wanted because he sure did love to eat and he would make me melt when he looked up at me with those beautiful blue eyes. I would cherish every single second I had him in my arms. The problem is, I wouldn't be able to say goodbye and so I have no idea what I would do, the first time shattered my world. He was only here for 3 1/2 short months and unexpectedly passed away 8 months ago tomorrow.

deleted_user 03/20/2009

I would give anything to have one more day with my son.Talk about all the fun we had and tell him how much I love him.Never got to tell him goodbye he was on lifesupport and it was horrible.he was my first born and I love him so much.even though I know he is with me.

deleted_user 03/20/2009

If I had one more day....oh the things me and my son would do! We would talk about everything, I would give him the longest hug, I would find some amusement park rides to go on with him, we would go to the beach, I would take him to the skate park, we would have his favorite meals all day. There is no way I could fit it into one mroe day but oh what I would give to have just that, just one more day.

MoMoe 03/20/2009

If I could have one more day with my mother, I would take that opportunity of getting to know who she was before she passed.I only got to know her as my mother not as a friend. If i had on more day i would sit there and tell her everything that i didnt get to say, I would hold her until the very last second of that day.I dont know how i would say goodbye, I never did it before. My mom passed unexpectedly.It seems like forever since she passed.Out of everyone that passed in my life, it would be only mom mother that i would spend that day with.Others i got to say goodbye to them. The only one left that is unresolved is my mother.

deleted_user 03/21/2009

what better of a day we went shopping got our nails done we laughed all day and that night when she was leaving we hugged but this was a special hug i blessed her and she hugged ne again and said i love you so much and hugged me harder and smiled and that was the last time i saw her alive so if i could i would only tell her how much I loved her too

vader 03/21/2009

I dont know how I would spent it..but it would be with Frank and we would be by Yankee Stadium.

deleted_user 03/21/2009

I like what Luke wrote.. I would say that I'm sorry I failed him when he needed it me. I would buy him the bigges CHOCOLATE CAKE.
I don't think I would let the day end...
I would keep coming up with things to do, when it finally end's I would tell him how proud I am of him, how having him in my life has made me a better person and I would take his place in a heart beat. If given the opportunity to avoid this pain or not having him in my life at all. I would take the pain every time. I LOVE YOU SWEET BOY!

deleted_user 03/22/2009

I would have spent it hugging and loving on my chris. I would have answered any question honestly that he asked. I miss him so much and need to feel him. It has been 20 years.
Chris Lynch
6/26/74 - 11/13/89

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