Bereavement Support Group

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sweetangel 03/19/2008

This might sound stupid to some because most have you have lost family and friends that were actually human. But over the weekend we had to take my cat to the aminal hospital and he ended up having to be put to sleep. He was only 3 years old and his kidney's were shuting down. It was the worst thing I've ever had to do in my life. Its been really hard on me. He was like my child. I dont have any kids YET I've had 3 miscarriages, and this I think was harder than any of them. I just feel like when is it ever going to be my turn to have something good happen to me. I've had 3 miscarriages, I have to have surgery, my cat had to be put to sleep. It seems like everything thats been happening is bad nothing good. Well just wondering how to cope with this. I've done ok today but the last 3 days I just cant stop crying. Thanks for listening. Monica

deleted_user 03/19/2008

So sorry to hear about your losses.
Make sure you take extra special care of yourself during this time of grief.
)))HUGS(((

deleted_user 03/19/2008

Poor you, it's so hard. Although it's not quite the same, I had a terrier called Rex from the age of 12 weeks. He was the best thing that had ever happened for me at the time, but because of my health, I couldn't cope with him anymore and I had to send him to a rehoming centre.It was sooooooooooooo hard and sooooooooooo painful. It was like a bereavement to me- I will never see him again. Losing someone/pet is the hardest thing in the world and you are allowed to cry, you are allowed to feel angry, you are allowed to question why? why? why? look after yourself - it's a tough time for you. Take care xx

JeffsGirl 03/20/2008

I've never owned a pet, but I do know that they become part of the family. My brother mourned over his cat for months. It's okay.

deleted_user 03/20/2008

For some reason, troubles often come in clusters, followed by good things that do the same. You did not sound stupid, I have been broken hearted putting a pet down many times. They are like our children. I am also sorry about your miscarriages. I had 3 myself. Did the doctor give you any medical reason for them? After my third, I changed docs just for a second opinion and found the problem right away and it was correctable. Your day will come, it just doesn't seem like it will right now. Sending huggs for your sorrow. Rainbow

deleted_user 03/20/2008

Don't feel bad -- your loss is just as hard! When my cat goes, I know I am going to be in tears for weeks. I've lost pets and it never gets easier because they ARE your children!!!
I am so sorry for your loss!

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