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I'm tired

Foreverbroken
Foreverbroken

It's been 3 months since my husband died in an accident and it's not any easier.  I'm sick of people telling me how strong I am.  Whatever.  It's easy for them to say as their lives go on as normal and they have their husbands still in their lives.  Their children still have their dad.  I'm tired of laying awake at night crying and hurting.  I'm tired of picking up the pieces every morning to start all over again.  I'm tired of people asking what I need or having them tell me to tell them how I feel but when I do they don't know how to react so they just give me that pitty look.  I'm tired of people acting like I'll get back to myself, when the person I was before no longer exists.  I'm  just tired of it all and yet I have to push forward because I have 4 children who need me.  My chest hurts so bad from missing get my husband.  This sucks and is so not fair.  

Lurch0
Lurch0
it so not fair Forever. I am truly sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is to go on each day. having everyone say the samething over and over. they do not know the depth of the pain we live with daily. theres is no getting back to what we were. I believe that there will have to be a new life that will take over. I am living one day at time trying to find some kind of normalcy.
Foreverbroken
Foreverbroken
One day at a time is about all I can handle at this point.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Huge hug for you Fore..... Sometimes it comes down to one minute at a time..... I am so sorry for your loss and your pain.......xo
Community LeaderThePepperMan
ThePepperMan
I am sorry that your friends are not much help to you. You may need to tell them how you can help, but I understand that you wish they would just know.

I ran a youth sports program for a while, and one thing we did was to make sure that in families like yours we were able to get children and friends (of theirs or yours) on the same team. All people had to was to ask. Depending on their age, you may be able to do the same thing at school.

Perhaps next time a friend asks what they can do, tell them that you need 2 friends, one to watch the kids, and the other to join you for lunch or a movie.

I am so very sorry for your loss. Doing things one day at a time is good; sometimes people need to do things one hour at a time.

Gentle hugs
Hopeful44
Hopeful44
I know exactly what you mean. I feel the same way too. Sometimes i worry that i might be losing my mind.. we all grieve uniquely but in my case, i feel much better now. I used to have insomnia and didnt want to go anywhere. Now i see my friends once in a while, i started working and can sleep at least 6 hrs. I do all the housework which keeps me busy. I pray for you and everyone who have lost their better halves. Have faith and hope. This too shall pass.
CecharB
CecharB
I pray for all of us that have to go through in losing a love one will find comfort in our hearts.Prayers ,love and
LostWithoutCarol
LostWithoutCarol
I am very sorry for the loss, as we all are. Only those here truly understand your pain. I too lost my wife just 3 short months ago and its been so hard for me. Some days I'm just dying on the inside. People today asked me about her and I kept it together but it was so hard to tell them, they liked her so very much and later one when i got to my truck I just lost it. Yes we are strong sometimes and weak others. But you and me we have to power through. Keep posting here. It really truly helps. I will be thinking about you.
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