Bereavement Support Group

Are you grieving the loss of a loved one? Whether you lost someone recently or it's been years, grief and its accompanying emotions can be complicated to cope with. Join our online support group to connect with a supportive group of people who really know how you feel. Help is right here.

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Loriluvsbruce 01/05/2008

My husband will be gone 8 mths. on Jan 9th.I thought I was finally accepting that he was gone.The pain was getting easier to deal with.And I thought I was moving on.Now I feel like crap.I feel like I'm going backwards and I dont know why.Lately I feel like I cant take care of myself or anything else.I just want to stay home,stay in bed.I dont know whats happening.I was feeling so strong before.Has this happened to anyone else.I have had good days and bad days since Bruces death.But this is different,this has been going on for a couple of weeks.Its like I'm stuck in a rut that I cant get out of.I'd like some advice if anybody has some.Thanks in advance.Lori

deleted_user 01/05/2008

i understand how you feel..i didn't lose my husband but i watched my mom after she lost dad, she pretty much just went on for us kids. we lost mom too this past year in feb...i feel like you, i don't want to do anything, i would rather sleep all day than anything else, i use to love the computer but now the only time i come on is when i'm drinking.
i'll be here if i can for you..are you on any kind of medication? talk to you soon, lori

deleted_user 01/05/2008

I didn't lose a husband. I lost my mom. I know I tried to be strong, maybe too strong and I emotionally I just crashed. I thought it would go away by itself but I quickly recognized that I needed help so I went to the doctor and of course it's depression. I never had it before but for a straight month I was in bed. Didn't even get dressed half the time. I didn't want to see anyone. I have been on a couple of meds and if you find the right one it does help some. I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I would say that if you are on medicine maybe it's not the right one. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

cliffskat 01/05/2008

Check with your doctor and local hospice organizations for support groups - most have more than one- and unfortunately a lot of cancer deaths are younger - not seniors. You may also be able to get grief counseling through them individually, a lot of them do reduced fee or no fee if that is an issue (is for most of us). I was able to get free counseling through the employee assistance program at work, don't know if that's available for you. Hope this helps.

Loriluvsbruce 01/05/2008

I want to thank you all for your advice.I think I do need counciling and probably meds.I always try to be tough and handle lifes crap on my own,but I think I've come to a point we're this is bigger and tougher than I am.Thanks again its comforting having you all here

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