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I was offline for about a week, and had to re-join the group. Starting over so to speak. So many emotions going on lately. I'm the one with the boyfriend who lost his son in a bad accident three weeks ago. He's in a terrible fog, my heart just aches for him. Fortunately he is talking about it to me, but I can tell he is dragging himself to go on each day, to get out of bed, and to function like "normal". I'm being as much in tune to him as possible, feeling him out to know when he needs alone time, and then meeting up with him when he reaches out to talk. I've been having a hard time myself with eating, sleeping, and feel drained, but I don't dare tell him that. I'm even angry at God for taking such a young man so soon, which is silly, I'm a nurse and know these things happen. Its just wrong and not fair. He would have been 24 in February this year.
I am happy that the two of you have reconnected.
When my father passed, it was the last of the family I was born into. My wife got upset at me, telling me that she loved my father too. I think that she has to take it on faith that there are times when deaths, even when separated by years, can add up and the sorrow of them all is more than the sorrow of the individual passings. But she has helped pull me back into that elusive state we call 'normal'.
It is a delicate dance, getting a spouse or BF to move back to a more normal existence. You will find a way that works, most likely by asking him what works for him.
Gentle hugs
Your'e so right Pepperman, I stopped asking for advice from so many well meaning friends, and instead focusing on how my boyfriend is from day to day. Knowing when to give him space, and when he needs to talk about his son. And just letting him know he can feel whatever emotions he is feeling at any given time, and there is no set rules on the stages of grief.