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Brianna72 01/04/2017

These days have been so hard with the holidays. The last couple days have seemed even harder. My mother's birthday was today and I'm having such a hard time. I'm sitting here alone in my house and can't stop thinking about my mother and crying and missing her. I feel like I'm going insane sometimes because I miss her so much. She was my rock and best friend and my Whole world. On top of that I'm also dealing with my broken wrist. I'm in a lot of pain right now physically and emotionally. I really wish my mom was here to comfort me with my pain in my wrist. Hopefully I'm going to get my wrist finally taken care of Friday when I get the results of my CAT scan. then out the doctor will tell me whether I am or not I need surgery on it and I hope that I do not need surgery because that is the last thing I need to deal with right now. I feel so lost without her. I just don't know what to do when I'm home alone and I start thinking about her or something reminds me of her then I lose it. She was the best mother in the world and she was always there when I needed her most. Dealing with the loss of my mother is so much harder than when I lost my father and that was at the age of 16 but that was because my mother was there to help me deal with it. My family tries to help but then I always go to go home to an empty house and no one to talk to but this website. I feel so alone right now and In so much pain. I cannot wait for this day to end.

ThePepperMan 01/04/2017

I am so very sorry for your loss.

I have lost both my parents as well. My only sibling before them. First my sister, then my mom, then my dad. In different years.

For me dad's death was the hardest. Mom was in dementia, so I was saying good by to her for a long time. It may be that your mom and my dad were hard for us respectively because we were closer to them, or because they were the last link to our childhood. Or perhaps a bit of both.

Birthdays, holidays and other special events will always be hard, but as timepasses it gets easier. Well, less hard may be a better way to phrase it.

Please know that you always have this site to come to and vent. I found that a bereavement class was very helpful for me, perhaps you can find one in your community.

Gentle hugs

Brianna72 01/05/2017

Thank you for your kind words and thoughts. Losing my mother was much harder because we lived together and spent most of our time together and she helped me move on after my dads passing. Life has been hard and because I lost my mom, life is 1 million times harder. This site has helped me a lot over the years. Thanks again. I'm sorry to hear about your sister and parents passing. I hope you had family and friends to help you through those rough days in the past and any future rough days. I have lost aunts, uncles, grandmother, cousins, and my godfather.. I have not lost a sibling and God forbid I hope I never will. Especially since I found out my brother was diagnosed with thyroid cancer and his surgery might be postponed because he might go with a more experienced doctior. So I'm praying to God that the surgery happens sooner rather than later.

Gentle hugs to you too.

Lisamariern 01/09/2017

I felt like I was partially reading something I wrote. I did not lose my mom, but I lost my father about 4 years ago. Dec. 13, '12. Holiday season. I hate the holidays now, and haven't decorated or felt any kind of happiness since. I am 32 ,and also live alone, besides my amazing animals. Sometimes I sit in my car just because I don't want to come in to my empty house where I am alone. I have a 3 bedroom 2 story house and it seems so much bigger living my self. I try to pass the time by either watching TV or listening to music but the faintest talk of death or cancer and I just cry. Sometimes I don't even know why I'm crying. Shows will remind me of something dealing with my dad then it takes me back to something and I get sad.
I am so sorry for your loss and I hope you find peace and understanding in your difficult time. I hope you find support and guidance to guide you down a lonely path. I also pray your wrist is ok and it heals for you. God bless, Lisa

Brianna72 01/11/2017

Thank you very much for everything you said. I feel the same way about watching TV shows and something will remind me of my mother and especially when someone dies I can't help myself but cry. I feel the loss of my mother so much deeper than I did with my father probably because I was young and I had my mother with me always supporting me. I'm supposed to have surgery on my wrist on Thursday and I am constantly thinking that my mom should be there with me in person not just in spirit. I am so stressed and I'm having trouble sleeping and I feel like I'm going insane sometimes and my heart is breaking so much that I want to die. This morning I can't stop crying and I'm only going on about three hours sleep and I have a major headache. I feel so alone at times I just want to scream and never stop. Thank you again for the words and thoughts and I hope that you find peace to because I know how it feels to lose your father. I think it's really hard to get over the loss of a. Mother or father. Hugs to you and God bless you. Take care of yourself and try to stay strong.

GINA

ThePepperMan 01/11/2017

My wife lost her father about 30 years ago; a few years after we were married. But I had known her family for YEARS before we got married, so it was a real shock and loss to me as well. But no way as near as the loss my wife felt because it was her dad.

As time passed, my wife has shared her feelings with me. She is mostly now at the point where she can feel happy when things happen that she wishes she could have shared with her dad. Our son got a PhD in a technical field, and her dad would have beamed from ear to ear about that. That made my wife smile to think of that, where as I still get sad when I experience things that I wish I could have shard with my dad.

So we can get there. As time passes there will be more happy thoughts than sad ones.

Gentle hugs

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