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Hey everyone,
I'm new to this group. I decided to join here to help cope with the loss of both of my grandmothers within the last few months...
In April (I think) I lost my dad's mother. I wasn't very close to her because my mother hated her and she talked to bad about her all the time and wouldn't let me see her when I was younger. I know it's my fault for not seeing her once I became older. I'm now 27 and I never really had a close relationship for her. I feel bad about it, because I will always wonder if she was really the awful person my mother made her out to be. It was an unexpected death. She had many health problems, but we didn't expect her to die so soon. Now my last memory of her will be of seeing her in her casket. That's not how I wanted to remember her. I do blame myself for not getting to know her better. Her husband died when my dad was 3 years old. I never got to meet him.
Now on to my mom's mother. She was like a mother to me as well. She raised me while my parents were working. I spent more time with her then I did my mother. Also my mother has issues of her own and wasn't the most stable mother either. If it wasn't for my grandmother, I wouldn't of turned out to be the person I am today.
My grandmother passed on July 26 of this year. It's been less then a week. Two years ago she lost her memory, and ever since her health declined dramatically. My grandmother had 4 children, and 8 grandchildren. My mother and I were the only ones who took care of her and my grandfather. My grandfather is blind and can't drive. He did take care of my grandmother when we weren't there. For almost 2 years she was able to stay at home, but about a month and a half ago we had to make the hard decision of putting her in a nursing home. There was no way we could take care of her by ourselves anymore. She was in and out of the hospital a lot towards the end. She only ended up staying in the nursing home for two weeks until she ended back up in the hospital. Her kidneys were only working 10% and her body wouldn't be able to stand dialysis. She also had congestive heart failure, diabeties, and her other organs were failing as well. July 18th we had to put her in hospice. Hospice was wonderful. They took such great care of her. And we were there around the clock as well. I didn't know she would pass away so quickly..but once she went into renal failure, the only thing they could do was keep her company. She stayed in hopsice for 7 and a half days before she passed this passed Saturday. We were all devistated. Especially her husband of 55 years.
It didn't fully hit me until now since things are finally slowing down after her funeral and all. I feel like my heart is broken. When she died she took a piece of me with her. I will never be the same without her. She meant the world to me.
Sorry to ramble on...I do have a question. Do any of you know any good "free" sites where I can make a memorial page for her? Or any other resources that I may need to get through this hard time? Any help at all is greatly appreciated.
I hope to get to know you all. And if there is anything I can do for you, please just ask.
Thanks in advance!
Jessica
I'm new to this group. I decided to join here to help cope with the loss of both of my grandmothers within the last few months...
In April (I think) I lost my dad's mother. I wasn't very close to her because my mother hated her and she talked to bad about her all the time and wouldn't let me see her when I was younger. I know it's my fault for not seeing her once I became older. I'm now 27 and I never really had a close relationship for her. I feel bad about it, because I will always wonder if she was really the awful person my mother made her out to be. It was an unexpected death. She had many health problems, but we didn't expect her to die so soon. Now my last memory of her will be of seeing her in her casket. That's not how I wanted to remember her. I do blame myself for not getting to know her better. Her husband died when my dad was 3 years old. I never got to meet him.
Now on to my mom's mother. She was like a mother to me as well. She raised me while my parents were working. I spent more time with her then I did my mother. Also my mother has issues of her own and wasn't the most stable mother either. If it wasn't for my grandmother, I wouldn't of turned out to be the person I am today.
My grandmother passed on July 26 of this year. It's been less then a week. Two years ago she lost her memory, and ever since her health declined dramatically. My grandmother had 4 children, and 8 grandchildren. My mother and I were the only ones who took care of her and my grandfather. My grandfather is blind and can't drive. He did take care of my grandmother when we weren't there. For almost 2 years she was able to stay at home, but about a month and a half ago we had to make the hard decision of putting her in a nursing home. There was no way we could take care of her by ourselves anymore. She was in and out of the hospital a lot towards the end. She only ended up staying in the nursing home for two weeks until she ended back up in the hospital. Her kidneys were only working 10% and her body wouldn't be able to stand dialysis. She also had congestive heart failure, diabeties, and her other organs were failing as well. July 18th we had to put her in hospice. Hospice was wonderful. They took such great care of her. And we were there around the clock as well. I didn't know she would pass away so quickly..but once she went into renal failure, the only thing they could do was keep her company. She stayed in hopsice for 7 and a half days before she passed this passed Saturday. We were all devistated. Especially her husband of 55 years.
It didn't fully hit me until now since things are finally slowing down after her funeral and all. I feel like my heart is broken. When she died she took a piece of me with her. I will never be the same without her. She meant the world to me.
Sorry to ramble on...I do have a question. Do any of you know any good "free" sites where I can make a memorial page for her? Or any other resources that I may need to get through this hard time? Any help at all is greatly appreciated.
I hope to get to know you all. And if there is anything I can do for you, please just ask.
Thanks in advance!
Jessica
As for the memorial site, all I can recommend is a blog at someplace like wordpress.com. It is free and you can add stories and pictures. Make sure you put up a link for us to check it out after you have made one.
Huggles headed your way.
Jessica