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Brianna72 04/28/2017

I feel so alone right now and i have no one i can talk too. I lost my mom in December and when I lost her then I lost everything. She was the most important person in my life. She knew how to make me laugh and she didn't like when I cried. Now she's gone I'm crying a dozen or more times a day. I don't feel comfortable talking to just anyone they don't understand what I'm going through. I feel like my life is over now and I don't want to go on without her. Some days I feel like I'm going insane and my heart is breaking. Plus I'm still deal with my broken wrist since December and the pain is excruciating and I don't know why I'm still alive I'm so tired of suffering with pain day after day after day I want my life just to be over. This life is so hard and impossible everyday. Haven't had a good night's sleep all week and I've been dealing with a lot of body aches and pains and migraines and plus my wrist pain. I'm just so tired of being alone day after day after day. I hate my life more and more everyday. My mom was my best friend and confidant and my rock. I lost the one person that always cared about me and cared about me. I just don't know how I'm going to move on without her telling me what to do in my ear. I have so many anxieties and fears about my life. I lost the one person that was my safety net and always made me feel safe and secure. I'm so lonely for some kind of companionship. Some days I feel so lonely that I want to die. I'm tired of suffering all the time in pain and loneliness and I had a lot of that before my mom passed but now it's reached a point that is its hard to move on in this life without my mother being that there right beside me. This is the hardest thing I've ever had to face on my own. When my dad passed I had my mom now even though I have two brothers but they have their own lives and I feel so alone. I wish my life could be just over and done with. Then maybe I wouldn't be suffering anymore.

TooMuch 04/28/2017

i am so very sorry for your loss. :( it is so hard, i know, to move on when you've lost the most important person in your life. i lost mine in december as well and i don't know how we're going to get through it except to take it one moment at a time. those waves of horrible feelings will pass, and return, and pass, over and over again. are you able to see someone for some grief counseling? it can be very helpful.

Brianna72 04/29/2017

Thank you for your words and for your support. I am very sorry for your loss too. You have to take it one day at a time which is very hard for me when im alone. I can see a grief counselor but so far I'm having trouble getting into contact with the greif counselor. I call her and leave a message and she calls back I miss her phone call. I will try again to contact her because i really need some helo. Thank you again.

debbielu 04/29/2017

Keep trying to contact your counselor. Is there only one in your area? Do you have any clergy available to you? Friends, family, close neighbors you can talk to? Maybe some of your Mother's close friends? We are always here to listen and share as well. Be gentle and kind to yourself. Take care of yourself. Your Mother sounds like an amazing woman. Prayers and hugs to you. Hope to hear from you again.

ComplicatedGrief 04/29/2017

Hi Brianna.
Im so sorry for your loss. Sometimes i feel like giving up too, the pain can be so awful and overwhelming. I miss my mum but i also deal with all the other emotions coming up for me. Ive tried hypnotherapy and eftt which really helped me a lot. I still cry and miss her but dont feel as hopeless and scared as before. Do you have any hobbies/volunteering/ work that you can do, even if its an hour a week? Any can help with distracting yourself from loneliness. Its definitely done that for me.
I hope that somehow we can all find some kind of peace.
Hang in there,
All the best x

Sadwidow16 04/29/2017

Oh honey I do know exactly how u feel I lost my husband of 15 yrs.in oct 09 2016 I have cried all day. But I texted with his mom until we both felt a tiny bit better. You can talk to me I will listen cause sometimes thats what we need someone to listen and really know how their feeling.

Brianna72 04/29/2017

Thank you Sadwidow16 for your words and offer of support. I am having a bad day and no one to talk too. Im filling out some doctors forms my broken wrist and just got to the part where they ask for family history and i had to circle the word deceased for everyone and its the first time I had to cirlce the word deceased for my mom and I just broke down and came on here and found your sweet words along with the other two supportive comments. I hope you dont think I'm silly for breaking down over something like that. Its been happening a lot. I hear something my mom would have said or did or watched. Please tell me that it won't be like this forever because if it is then I don't think I'm ever going to move on. Plus I'm in so much in pain from my wrist. Sometimes I'm going insane from the pain and losing my mom. I just hate crying all of the time and being alone and having no one to talk too. I have my brothers but like I said they have their own lives and like tonight my one brother went out with his wife to a dinner and a movie. I even forgot his birthday last Friday and he had to remind me. I have forgotten a lot of things because of losing my mom. I just don't know what to do except I'm pretty sure I need to see or talk to a professional about my moms loss. Thanks again. I really appreciate it. I hope you are doing better with your loss. I am sorry you have go though it.

Brianna72 04/29/2017

Hi complicatedgrief, thank you for your sweet words. I am sorry for the loss of your mom too. Have you tried something else besides hypnotherapy? I have never thought about going that route. I like to read and goto movies and walk in the park but I haven't felt like doing anything like that. The only thing I have been doing because I used to do it with my mom is go and see my little nieces because they cant wait to see me each week except I didn't go this past week I didn't feel well. My brother is constantly begging me to come every day or any day. But sometimes i get busy having to run errand and then by the time I'm done I'm exhausted and just want to go home. No, i don't volunteer or have a job right now and the only I do is see my nieces or run errands or goto doctors offices. Thank you for the suggestions and I hope everyone does find some peace. I try to take one day at a time but that doesn't always work for. I really miss my mom every second of every day and the nights are the worst because my mom would stay awake with me sometimes into 1am and then we would goto our rooms. I could always count on my mom now I'm very lost in my life.

Brianna72 04/29/2017

Hi debbielu, thank you for your words of support. I will try the grief counselor and then if i can't get a hold of her then I will ask the hospice company for another counselor. I have a priest that talked at my.moms funeral and my mom really liked him but I don't know if i feel comfortable talking to him. I have family but like i said they have their lives are very busy with work or their kids and stuff. I don't want to burden them. My moms friends are constantly calling or texting me but i feel weird because they do that because of the person my mom was and I'm sure she told all her friends to keep on me when she was able to talk in the hospitals or nursing homes. When I do talk to them and either they say something about my mom or I do then I start getting emotional. My mother was an amazing and the strongest woman I have ever know. Im not just saying that because shes my mom. Just to give you an idea of the woman she was, she lost two husbands, but that never stopped her. She always did what she had to do for her 3 kids and sacrificed her happiness and health to do it sometimes. Thank you for everything you said, I really appreciate everything. I hope you have found some kind of peace in dealing with your loss. Prayers and hugs to you and everyone on this site. I am so greatful to be able come on here anytime when I'm feeling so lonely and depressed and missing my mom and saying what I feel at that moment and getting responses from all of these generous and sweet people. All of your comments have helped me feel a little bit better tonight. Thank you all very much!!!

paiste7 05/02/2017

Hi Brianna,

I am SO sorry for your loss! I lost my Mom 7 years ago. I can totally relate to you. My Mom was my BEST FRIEND IN MY LIFE! She was there for me since day 1. She passed away very fast and quite suddenly. I am still in shock and grief. Life has never been the same since and never will be. I have done many things to try to grow and keep moving. Yet, there is no ending of missing a loved one. I lost my Dad 22 years ago and my Mom's passing makes me miss him even more. I am very, very lonely and think I am literally losing my mind at times. It is me and my female Black Labrador Retriever (who my Mom loved VERY much! It was her dog too.) I also went through a breakup of an 8 year relationship. Yes, I am very lonely. I am very sorry for you and am here for you. We are all here for each other.

Shon 05/03/2017

The pain that you are feeling is a very horrible feeling that is so real. You say that you have brothers but they have their own lives; do they know how much pain you are in, do they what a struggle this is for you? When we are grieving, it is imperative to have some form of a support group. Reach out to your siblings!!! Peace and love to you!!!!

paiste7 05/07/2017

I am so sorry! I can understand how you feel! My Mom was my best friend in my entire life. She's been gone 7 years and my Dad has been gone 22 years. I just can't handle it! I do a lot to try to grow and make myself happy. Yet, I know they are always gone. However, we should know that they are always with us in spirit and are always around.

Annfish44 05/14/2017

I am so so sorry you feel alone. I too feel like you. I need er married, have no children and my mom was my world, we were close my whole life. She passed March 23rd thus year and this weekend has been extremely hard. I never felt pain like this, I have such a void and empty feeling inside. Please do not give up, know you have a sisterhood of friends who love you and know exactly what you are going through

JM66 05/26/2017

So sorry for your loss. I totally understand. It's been a week since my mom passed and I feel like I'll never get over it. I've done the crying thing - every hour on the hour, and I feel like I am going insane, can't shut off my mind which is swirling with memories - recent and from childhood and TONS of guilt and regret. I can't handle the guilt, it is overwhelming - did you feel that? My husband doesn't understand, he is a great man but he doesn't get it. My mom was the type that was terribly frightened of the doctor and NEVER went, she very ill by the time I finally called 911 and forced her to go to the hospital, all the while time she was fighting not to go, she ended up in a long term care facility and died 2 weeks later. I feel so much guilt because I never forced her to go to a doctor and guilt over the fact that I should have spent more time with her in the home, should have been more patient (cause she can be difficult) I didn't expect her to go so quickly, I thought we had months or even a year before it would get critical, the doctors didn't give any indication that the time was near, I wasn't with her the day she died, I was 3 hours away taking a little down-time and I am so mad at myself for doing that - I wanted to be with her - I don't know, I just feel so much guilt. Anyways - just wanted to share with you and let you know you are not alone - I have no friends, my only girlfriend moved away and it's really hard to be alone when you are in so much pain. It's a real pain, it hurts in my sole. We are strong and we will get through this - that's what mom would want - we have to make her proud! Be kind to yourself ...

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