Bereavement Support Group
Are you grieving the loss of a loved one? Whether you lost someone recently or it's been years, grief and its accompanying emotions can be complicated to cope with. Join our online support group to connect with a supportive group of people who really know how you feel. Help is right here.
I lost my husband on October 15th, and I am so lost! We were together for fifty years, and married for forty-nine. I was in shock for the first two weeks, and then I had work obligations which kept me busy until last week; now, it is like the reality has set in, and I cry off and on all day. I wake up to his side of the bed being empty, eating meals by myself, his chair vacant in our reading room, nobody to talk and laugh with during the day, and nobody to spend the evenings with. I have children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren close by, but I find myself just wanting to be alone if I can't have my husband. I don't like to leave the house anymore, and try to keep busy working around the property. Will I get stronger? Will I be able to get through this difficult time?
I'm sorry for the circumstances that brought you to this site but I am glad you found an outlet. The road ahead will not be easy but know that you are not alone. (((hugs)))
There is not a "one size fits all" way to deal with loss. Things that are helpful to one person may destroy another, and vice versa. We all have our methods, take what works for you and leave the rest.
I have a friend in bereavement class who has a room full of pictures of her departed husband, a man in the class has a life sized blow up of his wife and he talks to it and even dances with it. Some people write letters to their departed spouse and have a ritual burning of them as a way of sending the letter to heaven via smoke.
Talk as much about him as you need, when you need. Within limits. I have learned (from a long time dealing with depression) that we need to respect the limits others have on listening to us. One friend may be able to listen to us for hours on end, another can only take short bursts of venting. These are neither character flaws nor strong points. They are what they are. We need to learn to live within the framework of our friends personalities.
Sorry to get so very wordy here. Again I am sorry for your loss, and welcome to DS!
Thinking of you today. Hope you're doing ok. (((HUGS)))