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vader 08/28/2009

Since May 22nd 2009...my life has been in a turmoil.I havent been myself and the thoughless people that I have encountered have been endless.But as for Brad...he didnt have to do it.He was going to get his license back and he was going to pay off his debts.And I am finding out more lies that he was told me and the list is endless.Why did he lie to me after 12 years? And why did he take the easy way out? And what about me? What about my feelings? Cant he realize what this has done to me? What about my feelings of complete despair? What about my nights of crying? I have to go back to work now because Brad has left me with limited funds.And his ashes are on my table because i refuse to wear them.The mess that he was entagled in has caused a great deal of people despair.Why should i clean up? Couldnt he?

deleted_user 08/28/2009

I wonder whether time can heal the loss of a loved one. My father died after a prolonged illnes in 1981. Doctors had told me that he will leave this world in six months after he went into coma due to diabetics & blood pressure. Inspite of these facts & help from my friend & doctor to prepare for the loss I was going to suffer, I continue to suffer from depression which doctors in India or USA failed to overcome. I wonder somebody can give suggestion to overcome the grief of 1981. He breathed his last in my arms.

deleted_user 08/29/2009

You need to forgive Brad for your own sake untill you can so that you won't be able to move on yourself, I know it's hard but remember Brad was a sick person also.
Hugs Mari

deleted_user 08/30/2009

I agree. You won't be able to move on until you forget about the past. I would move if you can and try to start over as soon as you can. Time does heal, but you also have to make sure you are not blaming yourself for anything...it was him, not you and now you have to stand up for yourself and get a new beginning. Do it for yourself!!

duane 08/30/2009

I am so sorry for your loss and for what Brad is putting your through. I agree, that you do need to forgive him for your sake. Anger, resentment and hate can consume a person especially after a death. Hugs

deleted_user 08/30/2009

I am sorry about Brad...
But I hope you realize he was in a great deal of pain over his circumstances and his way out was the way he chose...

I think he probably had other reasons for doing this other than debts/loss of his license...

Suicide does cause the family of that person a lot of pain but the suicidal person doesn't see it/can't see it so you need to realize that.

You might have to /want to consider bankruptcy although the laws are more stringent due to the Bush administration that they use to be...

We're here for you if you need to talk to someone about this....

Take care friend...

deleted_user 08/31/2009

You need to forgive its the only way you can move on.I lost a close friend to suicide so i know the anger you feel like u wish they were there so you can punch them in the face for leaving you and giving up well at least thats how I felt. I found out about it after the funeral of my cousin.I didnt understand how he could do this when he knew me and my sister needed him so much he was 1 one of our best friends.But you have to realize that for someone to take there own life they must be livng in there own hell to think there was no other way n to give up on life. Dont let him taking his life stop you from living yours sure things might be tuff at first but dont give up. I hope you can get through this just be brave and you will

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