How do you help the grieving? Is there any good advice? How can us co-workers and friends help? I have got a few suggestions that help you during this time.The first thing that you can do is to express your sympathy and that will be all.Do not ask personal questions.The questions..How did he or she die? or Did he/she leave you any money? are personal and they are none of your business.Anyone who wants to know such things might as well work for Jerry Springer.Grief is a very traumatic thing and we do not want to be sadly reminded of it.If the person is someone who you work with and not one whom you know well..do yourself a big favor and send a card.Show your co worker that you do care at this time and that you will do the job for them as of well.If you are doing a house call..please be polite when the minister,priest or rabbi comes do not stay.They are not there to see you.Leave! And on the day of the funeral,do yourself a favor and come early.Do not make yourself known.If it is a memorial service,please dress nice.No jeans or loud makeup at all.Do not try to distract from the people who are going thru agony.And when the grieving people finish the service and they offer do not bring a cake.How about a casserole?How about something that will bring back nourishment? And the week that follows,call and come on over.Bring groceries.Hire a maid cleaning service to do the house and never say anything bad even if it somewhat true.And if they have a shrine in the parlour and else where..it is none of your business.Let them alone.You have done your share.
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