Bereavement Support Group

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dreamergrl29 02/26/2011

I just lost my aunt a week ago. It's really hard. I've had horrible mood swings and bouts of uncontrollable shaking. And that's all find i guess. But the problem is that i cannot focus on school work. I'm in college, and the work load isn't very light, but i just cannot concentrate or remember things. I just don't know what to do.

How does everybody grieve? Is there a time when you have to stop using it as an excuse even when it still makes you miserable? My professors are nice, but i feel like i can only ask so much. But i just can't get my brain to work lately.

deleted_user 02/26/2011

Everyone grieves differently. It's totally an individual thing, for sure! The point is, you have to grieve at your OWN pace, even if it means possibly putting your life on hold. After my grandmother passed, I was unable for MONTHS to hold a job (drew unemployment instead) due to the grief and inability to handle it. I can totally relate to not being able to get the brain to work. I'm kind of trying to rewire my own brain to quit numbing myself to the losses I have faced and attempt to deal with them. Normally, I just keep it tucked into the furthest corner of my mind, and I don't dare bring it out of that corner unless I have support RIGHT beside me to talk about it to. Grief has no "right" time line. You have to learn to grieve in a way you can handle. If you're not already, I would highly suggest therapy for this. HUGS!

Scott46 03/02/2011

A week is not much time. It sounds like you and your aunt were close. This is likely going to take a while. Since you are a college student I'm going to suggest a book on grief by Therese Rando. Pick up a used one on Amazon. She will walk you through the stages. Another good one is by Alan Wolfelt. If you cant take time off and must study, I suggest you try and set aside time to experience the pain. Cry, hit a punching bag, exercise intensely, whatever you need to do. But vent the pain and anger. Its not a long term cure, but if you can control the time you deal with it, then you may be able to concentrate at other times.

Does the school have a counseling service? Maybe along with the student health center? I would look into counseling too. God bless. Scott

deleted_user 03/02/2011

Sorry about the loss of your Aunt I can guess that you were close Know that grief takes time a week a month that not long. I sorry that your having trouble with school like the other share I try to get some grief therapry help and know that you can come here when you need to huggskathyjo

koolman 03/03/2011

Yeah, it's true, the brain can't function very well when the heart is so hollowed out and forlorn. Gotta nurture the latter to get the former to work properly.

You might have to take some time off from school (!).

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