If I have offended anyone..I want to say I am so sorry..One of my friends in seattle Olivia is going through rough times.She is 62 and is now a widow but it has been a nightmare.You see..when her husband died...he was with another woman and he was in the motel up the street by me.I dont know what to say to her..but what she is finding out is a nightmare..Olivia has found that her late husband was having a conversation with men and women on the Internet.Also...some of the mortgage money is missing...he got very much into astrology and gave this astrologer a lot of money.I promised Frank to do two things...once the winter ends to go back to the choir..but Olivia is very fragile now and her children are out of state.She is on social security and that is all she has.She has never worked a day in her life and everyday when I see her..she is crying.All I do know is that her late husbands behaviour began when his oldest son was injured in a accident...the injuries were life threatening..he only lived 3 days..the little boy is 5 years old and that is all i do know.They dont live in seattle anymore...her children live in Nebraska.I have tried to contact them.,but the social worker at the center told me to mind my busiess.But now she keeps no food in the house and the budget cuts in seattle are great.I am not a social worker..I have read all of my life.Right now..it is the winter time and I dont like to go out in the winter time here.The buses here do run to 12.30 at night..seattle aint like New York..but some of the people who ride the bus...have less to be desired...And when I did ride the bus at night..all I can say is this..when the person got off the bus...this little kid next to me and his mother pulled out of the grocery bag an air freshner and sprayed for 5 minutes...then she asked to open the windows and the smell went away.(and even the bus driver was afraid...but these are hard times..what is he going to do)? I found out that a local food bank will deliver if you live in the area..does anyone think I am going her business if i ask them to deliver food? Theres no food in the house and I am worried...THIS IS HOW MY MOTHERS DRINKING STARTED.THIS IS ONE OF THE FIRST SIGNS...WHEN THERE IS NO FOOD IN THE HOUSE...A PERSON NEEDS HELP...SHOULD I LISTEN TO THE SOCIAL WORKER?How can I help?Shes always crying...I dont know what to say..what would any of you people do if you found out that your husband had a secret life? And theres no support group here to help..thats what is bothering me and I dont want to be like Elizabeth Taylor in WHOSE AFRAID OF VIRGINA WOLF? ANd to all widows...if you are depressed..please get help..please..Olivia is my only friend now you see all of them here left seattle because of the rents and she is the only want I see.Again...sorry to be defense..Noone here wants to help because of the economy.
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