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Hi everyone,
Almost 3 years ago (in August) my family and I lost our brother due to gun violence. It was a very unexpected and shocking transition, especially him being just 20 years young. I think I've learned to cope pretty well with his passing, though of course there are days when it's sad to not be able to talk with him.
Because they say everyone grieves differently, I've been taking note of how my parents and siblings have been dealing with this loss. Everyone has changed in some way, but my mother is really starting to conern me. Since my brother died, she has repreatedly said that she is to blame for his death. I haven't heard her say this recently, but what worries me is that she has notably increased her liquor consumption and has basically stopped parenting my youngest sisters who are 14 and 16. She is also very mean/angry most of the time and rarely tells any of us what's going on with her beneath the surface. I could be wrong, but from my view point it seems like these behavios have escalated over time since my broher's death.
So my question to you all is what would you do in this situation?
Leora
Almost 3 years ago (in August) my family and I lost our brother due to gun violence. It was a very unexpected and shocking transition, especially him being just 20 years young. I think I've learned to cope pretty well with his passing, though of course there are days when it's sad to not be able to talk with him.
Because they say everyone grieves differently, I've been taking note of how my parents and siblings have been dealing with this loss. Everyone has changed in some way, but my mother is really starting to conern me. Since my brother died, she has repreatedly said that she is to blame for his death. I haven't heard her say this recently, but what worries me is that she has notably increased her liquor consumption and has basically stopped parenting my youngest sisters who are 14 and 16. She is also very mean/angry most of the time and rarely tells any of us what's going on with her beneath the surface. I could be wrong, but from my view point it seems like these behavios have escalated over time since my broher's death.
So my question to you all is what would you do in this situation?
Leora
Or maybe she'll just lash out in anger, then get more drunk.
Either way, it would be an experiment to try, and would let her know she's not alone in this.