i had to write this column because I know that a great deal of men when they lose someone today they are shy.Some of them in seattle..they do not talk at all.But I had someone that I knew that did not want any help.He thinks that he is right,but he is getting things all wrong.Life is like water.Life is fluid and we must make the bes to of it.I always wanted to be an actress but it didnt turn out that way.18 years ago before I moved to seattle,I met the love of my life.He was just so much like me and such..everyone adored him.He used to do silly stuff like making balls of silly putty.He used to get chalk and make hopstock for the kids in the neighborhood.He had a sense of humour and then something happened.I did not know what to do and neither did anyone else.He was sharing a house with 3 other guys.These guys were not the party type at all,they were regular working people.In 1990,his roomate complained he wasnt feeling well.He had a cup of coffee and then he went to bed and he never woke up.Freddie found Kevin dead in bed and he was ice cold.He called me and what could I do? I had to get to the sheriff.His parents were shocked and they did not believe in autospyed,but the new minister told them to get one because they need to know what hurt Kevin.They found that Kevin was born with a very rare disease.I do not know the name for it at all.All I know is that the men do not live past 30.Freddie was so brokenhearted that he did not know what to do,so he began to act odd and I mean odd as I see it.In Kevin's room was a picture of Michael Jordan..Freddie wasnt interested in Michael at all,but that changed.He began to collect memorbilla and cards.He began to collect trophies and get all of these expensive jackets.One day his mother and I were both sick with the flue,Freddie and Joey and Tao booked the next flight out of Newark to see a Chicago Bulls game! All they had was the tickets and that is all.WHen they arrived in Chicago,it was cold and they had no place to go.A college student told them that he had friends who had a rooming house and that is where they stayed and believe me..it was a trip because this is all lhe talked about! I saw Freddie and the others change overnight.They became a Michael Jordan groupie and they shut others out of this circle.One day Freddies old friends came over to see my mom and me and they told me to get rid of Fred because they were getting tired of him.Fred applied to be a policeman and thought his partner liked him.That is not true at all.His partner couldnt stand him.Fred's partner did not like sports and preferred to grill whatever that is.He was always buying brats and steaks..but what is this grilling? Does anyone know? It is rare for a man to dislike sports..but Freds partner told me that he considered sports a waste of time and money.But the killer in the relationship came 6 months later..Fred took all of my pictures off his wall and made a wall to Michael Jordan! It was just like a shrine and he doesnt really know him.May I ask something.Why do men idolize Michael Jordan so much? What has he done since sports? I had to drop Freds friendship because it was getting so tiresome.I havent seen Fred since 1992 and I think of him now and then and I hope that he is happy because I realize now that he was just depressed and Fred felt inferior to other people and this is why he loved Michael Jordan.Love Vader.Meow from all of my cats!