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kittycat72d
kittycat72d
I have been doing some research on grieving and I really dont think I grieved yet. My mom passed away in jan 2001 and yes I was sad and cried in the beginning but then just went on with my life. Now all of a sudden I have been thinking of my mom alot lately and I really dont think I did mourn much. Now I feel like I am going in that mode so to speak. I have been depressed alot to but just thought it was my normal depression but not I am thinking about it it my be some sort of mourning. The whole way my mom passed away was just so so sad. so any thoughts on this or suggestions on what to do or how to cope? I feel so sad:(
steph01
steph01
Awe I'm so sorry! I think every person is different in their grieving. One person can grieve for a very long or someone can take awhile for it to sink in. And it can come and go, Like me. I lost my hubby 6 months ago, it was heartbreaking. I was a mess but also strong for our young boys. My spirits are getting better, I know he wants me happy and to pursue my dreams, so I am. But I have very hard days and think about him every minute.
Maybe you blocked your feelings out before this by keeping busy? Sometimes people do that they don't feel the emotions just try to push them off. Then it hits you really hard..
I hope you feel better, I know its so hard. I'm here if you need me. ((Hugs))
deleted_user
deleted_user
I don't think you ever stop grieving For your loved ones.I think it just eases up on you after the initial shock passes, birthdays, holidays, anniversaries,and so on are particularly tough, just let it flow naturally take honor In there memories. That's what I do.
kittycat72d
kittycat72d
Thanks Steph. I think that is what I was doing yes. I did block out the emotions I think for sometime but now it is hitting me full force and dont know how to deal with it. I cry at every little thing good or bad it seems. I have only been to her grave maybe 3 times. I want to go back but it is so hard to go because it is emotional. How did you get through it? I am so sorry about your hubby. I know you have to stay strong for the kids but where do you get the strength to do it.***hugs*** to you I am a mess..